aibu about this

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Firsty, I am an ADULT!

Ok, so i can't give too much away. So will have to spare some details.

My only remaining grandparent lives abroad, DH had plans to buy me a flight ticket to go and see him in a few months.

My mum has txt DH and said don't as he is very ill. But don't tell me. Obviously he thought I should know, but promised me not to tell my mother.

Aibu to be upset that my mother hasn't told me? Surely I deserve to know that he's not well?

I know you don't want to give too much away but it depends.

Was your Mum afraid your dh was going to spend money on a non refundable flight and panicked and wanted to tell him quickly?

Does she want to tell you in person, is she trying to find out more info before letting you know?

Have you talked to her amd asked her why?

Depends on the reason why.

The relative may have asked her not to tell you and to put you off going because they don't want you to worry and see them ill.

Tell your mum your dh told you because you wanted to know why he had changed his mind about buying the ticket or simply tell her that you don't keep secrets from each other.

Then speak to her.

Can't stand it when anyone asks DH or I to keep a secret from each other. My bloody parents do it all the time. We always say whatever you say to me, I will tell my other half. What is it with families and secrets!