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To wish people would stop telling me i'm hard to buy for

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pouffepants · 26/11/2012 22:39

I know I am. That's why I virtually never buy anything for myself. I find it almost impossible, even when I actually need something, to find something that I like. So needing new trainers for instance will usually take me several shopping efforts, with me getting increasingly stressed, wishing that my shoes would just last for ever, and eventually buying something in a blind panic that I hate and doesn't fit properly.

If I never had to have something new again I'd be happy.

But people seem to think it's some kind of philosophical standpoint, rather than just ineptitude on my part. So they want to treat me, tell me I deserve stuff. Which I don't.

And then moan that they don't know what to get me. I accept that saying that I don't want anything sounds like I don't mean it, and people want me to be part of christmas proceedings. And that's fine I don't want to make anyone feel uncomfy, but I really really don't want anything. The only thing that's really a treat for me is chocolate, but I'm too fat anyway, and because I don't eat it any other time I have no self-control, scoff the lot and feel very ill. So that's not great.

A friend asked what she could get me, and I realised that I'd had problems with my tape measure getting stuck that morning. So in an enlightened moment, I asked if she'd get me a new one. And she just said that's no kind of present, and said she'd keep looking. So when I do ask for something she ignores me anyway.

If I'm so hard to buy for, then just don't buy for me. Is that so unreasonable?

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pouffepants · 28/11/2012 19:11

Dunno, but I'd so LOVE to find someone like me. I'm a complete nutcase in so many ways.

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PropositionJoe · 28/11/2012 19:14

Are there NO books you would like?

PerryCombover · 28/11/2012 19:20

me too
i'm easy to buy for except if you are a brainless fuckwit with 30 mins set aside for entire shopping on Christmas eve afternoon

PerryCombover · 28/11/2012 19:22

tbh

I'm a grown woman so not really arsed but bizarrely I am made more cross by a BodyShop last minute £50 basket than by nothing at all
Also unmoved by cards

pouffepants · 28/11/2012 19:30

I like using the library for books, because then I can just give them back if they're shit without being a waste.

People DO give me books, but it's gamble, I often end up with doubles, because I've already read so many. There aren't any specific books I could list, just genres.

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MidoriKobayashi · 28/11/2012 20:02

Are there any experiences you might enjoy? Things like going out for a meal or a weekend away or a cookery course. If you could think of something then people could get you vouchers towards it which might be more useful to you and pleasing to them.

pouffepants · 28/11/2012 21:00

Right, this is silly now. The first things that jumped into my head when you asked your question, were doing an army assault course, or playing rugby. Neither of which I've ever done, but I've always fancied. Not really prezzie material though are they?

Apart from anything else I think I'd be hopeless at both.

Anyway thanks everyone for your suggestions. It's me I'm annoyed with more than anything. Why don't I seem to want the normal things other people like. I could easily go round a big department store and not want a single thing. It means I live like a king, and don't want for anything, but does make me feel like a very odd person.

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CoffeeOne · 28/11/2012 21:19

I get this all the time but I'm actually not hard to buy for at all. I shop at high street shops and like pretty much all food and drink. I watch films and read books and listen to music and like smellies yet I'm constantly told I'm hard to buy for. I think I just have lazy friends!

degutastic · 28/11/2012 21:33

People say that to me as well but what they mean is that I don't want the sort of things that they want to buy.

This. I'm also the sort of freak person who asks for practical things like tape measures (one year my mum caved and bought me a drill and jigsaw - saw not puzzle Grin - and I was delighted. She was bemused, but...) or things for my horses. I can shop all day for them, I like matchy matchy tack, but it's not easy for others to buy. Apparently asking for bales of haylage is also inappropriate Sad Everything else I want I am incredibly picky about (rucksacks, camping stuff etc).

Buying clothes, shoes and other normal stuff is a mission beyond belief. I am incredibly picky and ridiculously indecisive (takes several trips to come to decision). I also hate people shops so it's very rare I actually manage to buy stuff like that, but it's not like anyone else could for me.

I do have an amazon wishlist with some carefully selected items on though. I love t'internet. I can avoid people shops all together, be as indecisive as I like without multiple inconvenient trips and be as obsessive over reviews and write ups / specifications as I like without ever feeling pressured to buy.

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