To go for a run?

[BoraBora]

I had a baby 4 weeks ago today. Had a bad, "3b" tear. I think the worst of its healed, but it's still a bit bruised and heavy feeling down there.

I put 2.5 stone on in pregnancy, and I feel revolting. I used to be slim, fit and healthy,and now, I'm basically not.

I wanted to go for a run this evening but DH reckons I'm rushing into things and should give myself a break. I feel disgusting and depressed about my body. I know I could go for a walk etc, but to be honest I think a part of me wants to run because I can't take the baby with me so I can have a bit of a break.

Urgh. So would I BU just to go?

I would be careful before 6 weeks. Go for a brisk walk, leave baby with DP, get some music on.

Seek medical advice...that's what it's there for.

With the greatest of respect, you shouldn't be asking random anonymous people on an internet forum about something so important to you health.

You sound like you've got major baby blues, by the way. Exercise should help a bit but keep an eye on things. Hopefully it'll pass soon.

yes ywbu - you need to give your body time - you don't sound like things have healed yet

it take 9 months to get to gain your pregnancy body - it takes as much time to regain your old one at least - IF you are being sensible

start with some walking - take baby out for some long walks and build up

remember your muscles are more prone to injury post birth as well so you risk doing more harm then 'good'

go easy on yourself and enjoy your baby c

I would say it sounds a very silly thing to do.. and I am no expert, but surely running and putting extra strain on your body while you are still recovering from a major medical incident is sheer stupidity.

No no no. You will regret it. You could do damage but even if you don't you'll ache something horrendous tomorrow. Just take it slowly for the time being, go for a long but slow walk. You don't have to take the baby with you at all.

You are not disgusting. You went through an arduous physical process and it'll take time to recover. But you will get back to your old self, just give it time.

Actually u are slim fit and healthy. Your just not pregnant any more. At four weeks your tummy is still subsiding. This will go on for a few more weeks so youn haven't yet got the body you will be left with. Are u bfing? Does work quicker if so... Something to do with hormones.

You are rushing to run, I'm not sure ur gp would be pleased. Can't u do a DVD or something instead that's very gentle? Can't u take a break in any other way without running? Just start being conscious of ur diet again (healthy) and be sensible.

I'm sensing more shock at the confining nature of a new born than a desire to exercise exactly. That's normal. Still getting my head round that now 2yrs later.
It's wonderful but hard eh? Tons of threads on here about that!!!!

Absolutely no way.

One of my best friends in a personal trainer specialising in post natal and she won't do anything with her clients till they have had their 6 week check and even then she is careful and check abdominal muscles have closed etc...

Do some gentle exercise and take it slowly you will feel worse if you go at it too hard now and set yourself back weeks.

YANBU to want a break from the baby but you don't have to go for a run to give yourself permission for that. It's enough to want some time out. Can your partner look after baby for an hour or two at the weekend whilst you meet a friend for tea?

BTW it takes 9 months for your tummy to stretch to being PG so it is bound to take a while to get back. But it will! What is much more important short term is to try to work out if you are unhappy because you have PND and to seek treatment if so. IF it's just that you are tired and missing your old life (we've all been there!) then try to arrange some treats and breaks for yourself if possible.

Good luck. It gets easier, I promise.

YANBU to want to start getting into shape but YABU to start with running.

I started doing things that helped me build up a sweat about 4 weeks after DS4 but I didn't have a tear and I did not start with running.

Could you try going for a long quick walk pushing the buggy up a hill? This will tell you how bad the "dragging" feeling is with your insides. If you do that three times a week before your six week check up, getting longer and longer each time, you can then discuss how that's gone with him, ask about getting back into the full swing of things.

Personally, if I had had a tear I would have had a tentative fast walk if I felt up to it and then gone to talk to my GP, just to check the skin had knitted back enough to deal with the additional pressure.

If you want a break from the baby treat that as a separate thing and do something you have missed. Bubbles and Blue Cheese in a pub alone if necessary?

No but nothing wrong with a short brisk walk - keep it short though and see how you feel tomorrow before doing it again. You need to build yourself up to running.

I hear you - it obviously is too soon! I've got an appointment at the perineal clinic next week so I will wait and see what they say.

Don't kid yourself dear, they won't miraculously say " yup run like the wind either.... Your see what they say suggests I think they might. Take a break another way, there's more than one way to escape mentally and physically... X

U not I! Damn u spell check!!!

Step away from the running shoes! I was a really keen runner pre DC. Went for a run three weeks post DP. Straight away I felt prolapse drop down! Not been able to run since . It quite probably would have happened if I had waited the six weeks but I always kick myself for not listening to the advice of waiting six weeks.

I wouldn't do it if I hadn't kept up running all thru the pregnancy (why didn't you?) Maybe a walk with a few short stretches of jogging (100m here and there).

Don't. 4 weeks is really early to be tearing around, let your body heal.

I had c-sections, was at the gym until the end of both pregnancies and I didn't even consider going for a run until 3 months.

iijkk I had hyperemerisis all the way through, so was vomiting up until the day I have birth! Still put 2.5 stone on though

Blimey, bellamysbride there's a warning I should heed.

To be honest if you want exersize I'd hit the gym softly and just cross train/ bike and light weights. Running could land you with incontinence problems or prolapse (this soon).

Don't go for a run go for a walk instead-you'll need to build up to the running & it's not something I'd even consider 4 weeks after giving birth. Plenty of time to shift the weight-10 months up, 10 months down

I think you've got the message not to run at the moment - but really seriously, do get out of the house WITHOUT the baby in tow if your DH is around to look after the baby. It is vital to your mental health to have some non-baby time. The first few weeks/months, are, as I remember, totally hideous with a new born but seriously it does pass.

And for goodness sake, don't feel guilty when people say "enjoy your baby" and you don't enjoy yours. I didn't enjoy either of mine for about the first 4 months - I hated the newborn days. I didn't have postnatal depression, I just did not enjoy newborn babies. It's not the crime of the century.

can you just go for a walk alone. I think you need to wait till baby is 8 weeks then do a jog walk thing.