To question whether you can really love someone after a couple of dates?!

[Fondantfancy99]

Friend has just met a new guy online dating. Very happy for her but also slightly concerned - they have already exchanged I love yous (after about 5 dates) and she has introduced him to her entire family including aunties and uncles! I've witnessed some fast-moving relationships in the past (including me and DP who moved in together after a few months) but this is a new extreme!

I personally think it takes a while longer to really love someone. AIBU?

[Fondantfancy99]

Wow lots of stories of love at first sight :o

[HoratiaWinwood]

themumsnot I was about to get really indignant then that you had mixed me up with some other poster ... but I realised just in time that it was a literary joke! Come and join us in Adult Fiction in the GH Book Club.

[MoomieAndFreddie]

my 2p worth:

basically, i think most compatible couples pretty much fall in love at first sight, or very very quickly

BUT, out of them, i think not all move quickly into saying i love you, moving in together, etc, they are more cautious. so even though they havent made massive declarations to eachother, they ARE "in love"

and also i think the way men are portrayed as scared of commitment etc makes people surprised when relationships move quickly. but i actually think that is a myth that all men don't want commitment etc

does that make sense?

[IfNotNowThenWhen]

Yeah, it does. Ime men fall in love really quickly, or not at all. but then they do tend to fall in love with looks. Since I have been over 30 no man has been in love with me. When I was young and pretty I was beating them off with a shitty stick :(

[MoomieAndFreddie]

oh ifnot thats sad, don't say that, i bet you are gorgeous :(

[BridgetBidet]

Yep, I knew very early on and we've been together 13 years now.

Also a girl I worked with around the same time met her husband and was engaged within a few months and they are still together 10 years on with 2 kids.

[BridgetBidet]

I got on with my DH so well we didn't spend a night apart for about 18 months after we met each other until his aunt died and he had to go home to Ireland alone.

We moved in together properly after about 6 months by necessity but I think if you know, you know.

[IloveJudgeJudy]

I told DH. I loved him after a week. He took a bit longer. Together 22 years, married 20. Both late 20s. Still very happy.

[electricalbanana]

i met my DH online and i had fallen in love with him and he with me before we met! we had spoken on the phone for weeks before i said yes to meet him. i had no idea what he looked like and he me. I fell in love with his voice and his manner...we had some very very long conversations.

I met him....and my instincts were right

he is as lovely as i imagined.

we didnt "profess our love" for a few weeks but it was very very obvious this was not just a shag.

8 years later.....still rocks my boat!

[brighthair]

My parents were engaged after 6 weeks and married after 13 weeks (no, not shotgun wedding)
It's their 38th wedding anniversary next year

[MurderOfGoths]

I told DH I loved him on our second date

Seems to have worked out ok

[IfNotNowThenWhen]

Aw thanks Moomie . I am OK, just facing the fact that I am not the catch I used to be!

[electricalbanana]

ifnot ....my profile on t'interweb described me as

Short fat hairy frodo type with hair feet
Looking for the lord of her ring


apparently it made him laugh...

i am no beauty (was in my hay day -1980s)...

i bet you look better than my profile!

[ARightOldPickle]

We knew from the first date, DH proposed after 5 weeks and we married 18 months later. Still together many many years later (old timers!)

So I say yes!

[MerryCunnyFuntingChristmas]

My friend got a new boyfriend, 4 weeks after they first got together they got matching tattoos, he got her name tattooed on him but she didn't get his. After 5 weeks they were engaged, after 6 weeks they split up. After roughly a week they got back together, then split up a week later, they got back together and I think they're still together. I can't keep up

My conclusion? I have no frigging idea.

[x2boys]

wel; we said we loved each other after two weeks enaged at six weeks married at six months 8years and 2 children later i still cant imagine life without him love him to bits although all that butterflies in stomach everything is just wonderful feeling goes after a few months

[JuliaScurr]

ifnot they were young, fit, and a bit immature
now they are like you - wise, ripened and luscious

[WhatWouldSantaDo]

I knew from the moment I saw DH, he says the same.
That Savage Garden song 'I Knew I Loved You' pretty much sums up how I feel about him.
I told my friends after I met him that he was The One.

[wannabedomesticgoddess]

I met DP on Facebook. We have a lot of mutual friends, one being my cousin. Its odd that we hadnt met before as we went to similar places, but it seems fate had a plan!

Anyway, we had a very long phone converstation before meeting a few days later. I stood him up the next week but then regretted it and apologised profusely.

I think it was about 6 weeks before he was living with me. It wasnt official, he just stayed over and never really left. We got engaged 3 months later. He was the first to say he loved me, he says he knew from the first night I was the one.

I do think its a bit silly to plaster it all over facebook and twitter though. We were quite private really.

[Bonsoir]

Yes of course you can be madly in love after a few seconds!

[Oblomov]

I knew alot about dh before I went on a date. I moved into his house as a lodger and so knew alot about him, how he lived, what kind of person he was, his thoughts on ... politcis, infidelity etc, what he cooked, etc. I knew very early that he was a very good man.
If you've been on 2 x 2 hr dates, you may not know that much about someone.
But don't dismiss my feelings as infatuation, becasue it wasn't. We never told eachother that we loved eachother for a bit, but I knew, right from the moment I met him, that he was something special.

[Oblomov]

WhatWouldSantaDo:
"I knew from the moment I saw DH, he says the same.
That Savage Garden song 'I Knew I Loved You' pretty much sums up how I feel about him.
I told my friends after I met him that he was The One."

Ditto.

[zlist]

I met DH on the Internet - due to the distance we talked on the phone for several weeks before meeting (at his house and I stayed the weekend). He told me he loved me after that 'date'. I was a bit about that and the talk of marriage soon after that but his friends and family make it clear that was far removed from his MO. I was a bit slower but it was still pretty quick for me! Anyway, we have now been married for 9 years - most of the time happily.

[MummyToBe2013]

Started chatting online to DP on a Tuesday, we met on the Friday, saw each other on the Sunday, exchanged "I love yous" the following Tuesday - one week after first meeting online. Been together 14 months.

[Crinkle77]

I think you know you have met 'the one' pretty much straighaway. I know it is a cliche but sometimes you just have that spark and you know if it is something special