My DD is one and a half and at nursery. Her nursery is in the same village as mine and hubby's place of work and where my husbands' family live. We have been invited to a Christmas fun afternoon at the nursery and both me and my husband have arranged to leave work early so that we can take DD together. However, my husband's grandma (who also lives in the same village) has a friend who works at the nursery and this friend has told her she can come to the event. As a result my MIL now wants to come too. Is it unreasonable of me not to want them to come? It is the first event that we have ever been invited to and I just feel like I want it to just be the three of us. I wouldn't have invited any of them to come and I feel like it is unfair for the family friend to have done so. I just feel like whenever we go out with the grandparents (my mum included) they tend to take over and I am pushed into the back ground watching. I know that they do not mean to take over and it is only because they love my DD, but I also feel like I am pretty good at standing back and letting them take over most of the time. I also arrange for both sets of grandparents to have time alone with DD so that they can have some 1:1 time without mummy being there. I over heard my MIL talking yesterday so I know she is either going to ask if we would mind her going or just announce that she is going. Would it be unreasonable to just ask her not to? The crux of the issue is that I feel like these little events are few and far between and I just want to enjoy it with DD without having to stand back and watch grandma enjoy it with DD instead. My inlaws are lovely people and wonderful grandparents and I wouldn't want to offend or upset them, but at the same time I feel like it should be our choice to invite them to events like this and say no if we do not want them there. Hubby feels the same as me.