My boyfriend is the most unaffectionate guy ever. Im really fed up with it.
It has been a sticking issue for a long time, every now and then I get really upset about it and tell him, but he doesnt agree with me that he is like this.
Sometimes I think that if it werent for me making a move then we might never touch again!
I got into a real stew about it last night. On Friday night we had a date night (arranged by me because trying to make an effort to have alone time with him). He grumped around all the time before we went and I bit my lip thinking hed be fine when we were out. Then while we were out he was miserly and putting a downer on it. Not once did he kiss me, hold my hand, put his arm round me, tell me I looked nice... I asked him what was wrong and he said nothing so I sympathised and said he must just be tired which he agreed with.
The next day all day he was really bloody grumpy, everytime anybody said anything it was responded to negatively...and I mean everything. I couldnt do anything without him rolling his eyes at me, which eventually I did snap back at.
In the evening he ignores me and plays on his sodding computer game all evening. Then we go to bed and he starts snoring so I start to go to sleep and he wakes up. For the first time all day he rolls over and starts kissing me, and for some reason it just made me furious. Why ignore me all day, be grumpy, not cuddle or kiss me, but then at night think that you can so it will lead to sex? And it not like I didnt want sex, I love it, i wish we did it more often...but when being touched lovingly is confined to once a week at nighttime it feels contrived and makes me feel cross. So I did what Ive never done before and pretended to be asleep.
Am I being unreasonable to think he should be being loving towards me, and tell me I look nice when we go out. He says he's 'not like that' but its not true...he used to be like that, and quite frankly, even if hes not like that he should make an effort and get like that.