I quit my night job so my partner could take a better paid night position with the same company. We couldn't have both worked, we have no family to care for our two year old son at night so it was the only way, which I am fine with, I love being a stay at home mother.
He'd never had a full time job before this one, only working part-time once a week and doing his degree from home while I was earning. I did everything, the housework, taking care of our son during the day, cooking, on top of my job. I never got to sleep in after nine, ten if I was lucky, even if I'd got in from work at 6am. He'd always apologise but as soon as I was up, that was it.
Now the situation is reversed all he does is sleep. He doesn't go to bed as soon as he gets in, he stays up because he says he's not tired right away. He sits on the computer citing his need to 'conserve his energy' and goes to bed about 10-11am, wakes up just before work to eat, bathe then out the door.
On the weekends, like today, all he does is sleep. He's always either dozing on the sofa, in bed or at the PC. He plays with our son as long as it's sitting down. Good thing he likes his books.
It makes me want to scream, knowing that I was in the exact same position but I sucked it up and didn't complain about it, even when I went two days on five hours sleep and having to do everything. He's fit and healthy! I worked 12 hour nights at 9 months pregnant and the worst he got from me was moodswings!
Tonight we were supposed to have a movie night to spend some quality time, he fell asleep before our son went to bed. He's been sleeping all day. I know he works hard and I have first-hand experience of how tough nightwork is, but it's not this hard.
Am I being unreasonable for expecting him to suck it up. I'd be happy if he just made an effort one day a week.