aibu to be a bit pissed off that dh has convinced ds to spend his 21st alone?

[ThatVikRinA22]

ds is 21 next weekend.
he is at uni but has AS/dyspraxia/dyslexia and hasnt made any friends at uni. He is fine and coping but lonely and to top it all his boss has threatened to fire him (he is a computer programmer) because their site got hacked (his boss uses indian programmers who had a password of 4567!!!!!!!!!!)

so he is a bit stressed out right now. His birthday is next sat and i really wanted him to come home and spend the weekend with us and have nice meal out or something.

DH has said that because he leaves uni the week after for the xmas break he should stay there until then - great but i will be working then and wont see him (i do shift work) and im working xmas day and boxing day.

im really annoyed with dh for suggesting DS doesnt come home for his birthday weekend, but now DS seems to have accepted this and thinks its a good idea.

im really annoyed with im for not even discussing it with me before he told DS to stay at uni. He has gone to bed in a strop and im seething alone.

So what would happen if you were hospitalised? Say you had to have a triple bypass and was going to be in the cardiac care unit for the next 4 weeks or had an accident and was in a coma?

Am genuinely interested btw and not trying to sound clever. Would the court case have to be dropped or delayed?

Vicar was your DS the one who thought he had failed his second year?

If it was I remember your thread. I bet your really pleased he is doing his final year. I'm sorry I have nothing useful to say. I hope he makes some friends soon.

Oh, and YANBU

Yanbu, Get him home or visit him, make it special. Xx

busters im not any of those things so its irrelevant and would depend on whether my evidence was key or not.

masterofbuggerall - yes it was him. he failed an assignment but resat it.

Fair enough Vicar but I would be horrified if a member of my team felt that they had to come back to work when they were signed off sick cos they had deadlines they felt they had to meet. I would do everything in my power to ensure any such deadlines were reallocated - to me if necessary - or delayed if possible.

Although I do appreciate that in your job when you are giving evidence that isn't always possible. But you really should put your health before the job.

I hope your DS has a lovely birthday whatever you decide to do.