To expect a response to this text?

[bakedbeanqueen]

Or am i being a bit self indulgent?

There is This guy who i have been on a few dates with but sometimes don't hear from for a while (all fine btw, i am not sure yet whether i want a relationship)

He text about 2 hours ago and we exchanged about 2 texts each with the last one from me telling him i wasn't very well as i had had a seizure in town today. I got no response to that text. AIBU to be a bit hurt? Whenever we meet he is always lovely. Saw him last night on our running club night out and all fine.

Its only been 2 hours, I wouldn't worry.

That's the thing about texts though. Like forums.
You might think you're in a conversation but something in RL might distract you.
Speak on the phone?

Maybe he just doesn't know what to say?

Some people cannot deal with sick people- if that's the case better you know now. Equally, he may be busy. Give it more time and you'll know- either way, don't sweat it, you don't really know him, he isn't your friend, he doesn't matter.

Hope you feel better.

If you want to have a conversation, then pick up the phone to ring him. People who want to try and carry out a conversation via text message and then get stabby when I don't immediately reply to their inanity drive me mental.

He won't know what to say

did he already know you have seizures?

And you don't know that he's read the text yet.

He might not if read it yet. Sometimes if I'm busy I can text but if its something important u'll read it but wait whilst I've got time to reply properly

It sounds like the texts up until that point were quite close together though, and then the exchange just stopped dead?

I'd be feeling miffed too. Although I would wait and see what had happened - there may be a good reason.

Tomorrow I'd say/text something like, so I told you about my seizure last night but didn't hear back. Is everything ok?

And then if its clear that he wasn't abducted by aliens/in a spontaneous catatonic state for one night, you have the right to think, hmmm, looks like he might be a twat.

Have got one back now that said "uh oh" and then something about shopping!! I give up As previous posters have said calling probably would be easier. And yes, he does know i have seizures.

Are you ok, bakedbean ? After your seizure I mean?

I'm ok now thanks. Everyone in town was lovely and the paramedic took us home. Just going to have a quiet day today.

My mum has seizures and at first people didn't know how to react.
'are you ok now' sounds a bit shit, because while you might feel better, you are not ok. Its those sorts of things.

I hate texts at the beginning of a relationship. So much room for ambiguity that just doesn't happen with a phone call, i.e. pre text, if a man was interested, he actually had to phone you. Now he can send the odd text and we're left (well, the more neurotic amongst us!) analysing it and wondering what does he mean by that. Are those arrangements set in stone, or is it just a casual "maybe see you on Saturday" etc etc. Grr.

Makes me think that if if I'm ever back on the dating scene, I will so things so differently.

Sorry BBQ, at that stage in the relationship he may be unsure if he wants to get more involved with the complication of your medical condition. It's one thing for him to know about it in theory, another for it to happen and need a response from him. If you really like him you had better have a frank chat about it ASAP, as he may be building it up in his head as a bigger problem than it is. FWIW my friend was diagnosed type 1 diabetic not long after meeting her now husband. That's serious stuff, full-on injections 5 times a day, high risk of falling into a coma etc. He stayed with her and now they have 2 kids.

'are you ok now' sounds a bit shit, because while you might feel better, you are not ok. Its those sorts of things.

Erm sorry then, Brady . I was just trying to show a little consideration. What should people say then?

You have misunderstood.

I was giving an example of why sometimes this sort of health issue stumps people. People sometimes don't know the right sentiment would be.

Hey OP I hope your DP was more sympathetic the next day?