To be furious and upset about the thick layer of dust all over the house?

[CunningPlan]

We have spent months and months doing up our house. The last job is the hall stairs and landling and the last bedroom. The old plaster needed ripping off (blown). DH tackled it today and started while I was out.

I came back to discover that he has done the bare minimum to move any stuff out of the way of the dust. We talked about him stopping up the doors with plastic sheets. He didn't bother.

There is a thick layer of FILTHY dust all over the house. In particular, it is all over our bedroom, including in the bed which he didn't bother to make. It's all over the new carpets and curtains - including the two pairs of full length curtains in our bedroom which I made by hand and the brand new carpet, curtains and sofas in the lounge and the clean clothes which I had ironed and folded because we are going on holiday on Thursday.

He said "sorry" in that sulky teenager voice and said he will clean it up. Too right he will. He is now sulking, but doesn't get that I don't want him to clean it up, I wanted him to engage his brain so that we weren't in this position in the first place.

It's not like we haven't done this before - we did an identical job in the last house.

Tonight is going to be chilly in the Plan household.

Of course not
I thought you were going to say it was the builders, but dh much worse!
Can you trust him to clean it properly?

No letting him sex on you for a week!

Plaster always means mess. Very fine stuff plaster.

Oh no, I hope everything cleans up okay. YANBU, that was really lazy of him. He must have known what would happen.

He has cleared up in our bedroom, but is sulking because I got cross with him. He says he didn't think it would make that much mess

Like I say, we have done this before. It is also all over the pile of ironing I did this afternoon

How annoying, but why did you buy new carpets ect when there was still work to be done.

Logical thinking would be to complete all building work then sort the flooring and soft furnishings

I have just sluiced out the shower which he had left all gritty after his shower and the coats and three pairs of my shoes which were in the firing line.

His coats are also covered. So that's alright then.

Thank you McChristmas, but I defy anyone to spend two years without any sofas, carpets or curtains

It wouldn't have been a problem if he'd stopped the doorways properly. And that doesn't explain why he can't put coats and shoes away.

YANBU. I've gone ape at DH for this sort of thing a few times. That and painting without putting anything protective down, only for me to find dried drips on the carpet - when I point it out I'm met with a plaintive "well I can't help it. I can't remember everything."

I'd ban him from painting if my hands weren't knackered.

YADNBU.

2 houses and 13 years I have lived with similar situations (although since he finally left, now it is me making all of the mess and containing it a damn sight better than he did).

Slate dust when he put in the new loft hatch was the worst. All through the house. Took days of cleaning, hoovering, washing things down to get rid of that.

Let him sulk, hope he cleans it up properly.

Ooh, you are so not BU. DH once pulled a ceiling down with friends and they kept coming in and out of the room which I had skilfully sealed them into. I wouldn't mind if it was necessary but it was to get fucking beers.

DS was only 10 weeks old and we ended up sleeping at MIL's because the air was that thick with it.

If people are going to do half-arsed job at DIY and then sulk about it afterwards they should just pay someone else to do it properly.

Part of the reason I was so upset is that he is SO particular about other things - and goes mad if I look like I might drip my tea. He has done wonders, not to mention a lot of back breaking labour, in this house, I just don't understand why he was prepared for it all to be spoiled for the sale of half an hours work.

Chinese for tea. He's paying. And he has cleared up, bought me a bribe chocolate and my favourite drink as a peace offering.

Sounds like my DH who is currently upstairs sulking because I disagreed when he sad he was perfect. When we finally finish the house I will Ebay him. Buyer beware.

No matter what he had done you would get dust everywhere if he has been pulling down plaster walls.
I have had 2 bedroom walls pulled down in the last week. The rooms are empty and the only rooms on that side of the house and the plaster dust is still everywhere. I dust each day and by the next there is a fresh layer of it.

Think I might have headed to the nearest premier inn for the night!

I did this we built a kitchen extension earlier this year and DP left me the task of ripping down the old kitchen ceiling, I didn't realise it would be so messy, but as DP pointed out, it was 100 years worth of dust and muck. Everything downstairs was coated in a layer of black dust

You have brand new carpets, curtains and sofa in the lounge? Why, when you were about to rip paster off walls????

He should have taken more care, yes, but you were daft not to wait till the building work was finished before laying new carpets.

I think this is the reason I have had no carpet on my stairs for the last year. It's driving me insane but after reading this I'm not nagging dog anymore.

Dh not dog. Although equally pointless.

been there, done that, feel very sorry for you.

YANBU.

and those who say wait to buy stuff before finishing....not always practicable nor possible.

There are ways to prevent dust. Block doors. Cover with dust sheets (which are made for that exact reason, clue in the name). Put as much as possible away before starting.

sadly, many men are lacking in common sense and need it pointing out. Even hindsight doesn;t stay with them from one job to the next.

And I LIVE with a builder....He forgets, or just doesn;t even think.

Are they lacking in common sense psychomum? Or do they just not care enough to bother making the effort?

I think they are just consumed with the thought of the end result, and don;t think about the mess along the way.

Don;t forget, when on building sites they all make mess, and it generally gets washed away at the end of the job. By rain it they are outside. It makes them very lazy when it comes to inside work