AIBU to think that a Carer for a lady with Dementia

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Should not take money off of her for lunch on a trip out.

My Aunt has vascular dementia, she also has a Learning Disability and a significant Physical Disability that means she is in a wheelchair. She currently lives in a nursing home. She still has some insight, but even before the dementia began, she had a mental age of about 10yo.

Today she went out shopping at the Xmas market with a Carer, employed by the nursing home. She had £40 to spend. She came back with a pack of Xmas cards that cost £6, a small vase (Dont know how much that cost as no receipt) and no money. Apparently they had lunch, and she paid for the Carer's lunch as well as her own.

I thought that the Carer would have had an allowance or something to get lunch, not expect my Aunt to buy it. My DM doesn't want to "Cause Waves" so will not report it, but AIBU to report this anyway?

I am an in home support worker, we are told as policy never to accept gifts of any kind. However there is a lenience towards chocolates or something very cheap at Xmas.
I would however, if on my own with a service user, accept them buying a meal or a small snack etc. It's not just about money... its about company. Also many service users want to show their gratitude, but cannot in many ways.. it's hard for them, particularly when they know we are paid so little. The situation would be effected by the service user's mental capacity though. I guess it would depend on the severity of you Aunt's dementia OP

The receipts are a worry, because whatever happens, as a carer you HAVE to keep a financial record. Also, no change at all coming back doesn't look good. But definitely have a word with management in a non-accusing way, because I for one would be devastated if my service user's families thought I was stealing.