To make my dh spend his day off with me

[notnagging]

I know I probably am bu but I am absolutely knackered today and just feel like I need a but I extra support. Dh works long hours which means I am often at home by myself a lot with newborn & other ds'. He doesn't get in until after bedtime usually but does mostly do school run in mornings. He wante to go to his mums today but was with them all day ystdy & didn't get in until 11. His last days off we spent at his mums and at his sisters. I am so tired an just need a break today but mil is moving soon and wants him to come over on his days off to help pack. He is going next week but is in a mood with me today because I refused to go down there. I have a history of pnd. I told my hv ystdy that I am coping but I feel like i am skating on thin ice & it is just about to
break. I know his mum needs help but I'm trying to make him see that I do too.I know it is difficult for him but it always seems to be a battle between me & his mum.

Errrrr surely you take priory
It's that you use the words "make dh spend time with you"
Yanbu

Yeah your right I should have phrased that better but that's how it seems

I meant your dh should be wanting to spend time with you!
You aren't in the wrong here

Of course YANBU - but is there anyone else you can ask?

If your DH wants to go to his mums, and you'll have to make him stay with you, than he will probably be in a mood and not very helpful. And it doesn't sound like you need that right now.

Can you get anyone else round to give you a hand, and deal with him at some other point? Did your HV signpost you to any services that might be able to help?

You sound very down :(

I'm going to try and get out more without him.

Thank you both, I have explained to him that I just need a break from time to time. It is difficult to get things done at the moment. I am very conscious that things can get on top of me very quickly. I don't want to start feeling overwhelmed,