Thinking 'precious' and 'bubble wrap' type comments are irritating?

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I've seen a few comments recently where people have been accused of that, and find it silly that people want to judge parents for effectively keeping a child 'too safe'.
They are entitled to parent in a way they feel comfortable,
fair enough sometimes children need more independance, but there are much nicer less up own ass ways of saying it. People don't make similar condisending remarks to more relaxed parents, comments like 'theres another bubble wrap child' etc are in no way helpful and seem purely to be aiming to make the mum feel bad in my view

I don't see anything wrong with it.

Some people do bubble wrap and they really can't see the damage it can cause at times, until it's explained to them.

Don't see anything wrong with it either. Basically you are telling the person their parenting is "wrong" and they are likely not to take it well, however nicely it is phrased.

But surely its more helpful to say 'you're worrying too much, maybe let your child do so and so as a compremise' than just saying 'your just being precious'

Because not everyone who does something considered to be wrong is precious.

But some people plainly are...there's normally a difference.

I'm guilty of the 'bubble wrap' comment - actually I think it for better than FFS GET A GRIP!

Ther are better ways of phrasing it, but being neurotically over protective rubs off on the child.

Either makes them nervous and scared of trying things or makes them sneak off and do forbidden things when your not looking.

Also it means they go to senior school, with all it's inherent freedoms, less well equipped than they should.

You will gather, I like popping bubble wrap

Ha ha fair enough keep popping away
guess it does depend on the context its being used in, but i think its especially the 'precious' one that annoys me, especially as it reminds me of gollum on the lord of rings film ha ha

I think it's very helpful to be told you are being precious when you are being precious.

It was a lesson I learned well many years ago

I'm loving the idea of posters being precious about being told they are precious .

Seriously the world cannot and indeed will not pussy foot around certain issues.

I don't see the problem. If you actually think the person is being precious etc.

People should keep their opinions to themselves. Very, very rude to comment on someone else's parenting, whatever your private thoughts are.

We were at soft play recently and one woman had a child nearly 2 years older than mine. She wouldn't let her DC out of the small baby area, and she eouldnt even let them go down the slide.

I didn't say anything but I did let DS do what he normally does (play everywhere without getting injured or killed) in the hope that she would see that it was perfectly possible for a toddler to run about and play rather than sitting still all the time.

People should keep their opinions to themselves.

Surely you wouldn't post in aibu if you didn't want peoples opinion?

Bubble wrap? Its cotton wool where I come from.

Nora I meant in real life, not on mumsnet.

The op states I've seen a few comments recently where people the use of the word 'seen' not 'heard' would intimate to me that she is speaking about MN or something similar.

Tbh 'bubewrap' or 'precious' are not words I hear in to alot in rl.

I am sure most people don't just wonder up to people unsolicited and say these things. Occasionally maybe, but its nit the norm.