It's just not ladylike.

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We had a heated discussion in the staffroom at school today because some teachers seem to think that certain behaviours are worse from girls than they are from boys. This is because girls should be more ladylike.

So AIBU in thinking that there are rules for behaviour that should be followed whoever you are and it makes no difference whether you are a boy or a girl? Why should girls be held to different standards than boys?

Can I add that I do embroidery, but also drink pints and am a superb farter.

I have just done the stinkiest fart ever aided by the pint I drank earlier.

I don't give a fuck about being ladylike. Whatever that even means.

I drink pints too and am another superb farter, but I do attempt not to fart in public (I will happily drink pints anywhere). I don't have any tattoos though.

I think antisocial behaviour is a shame as well, whoever is doing it. I think that I sometimes hold clever kids to a higher standard of behaviour than the less clever ones, but would never expect one gender to behave better than the other.

But Goonie why would you tell boys off more if they hit a girl? Does that mean you tell boys off less if they hit a boy? And do girls get a free pass if they hit boys? Can't you see that's an unfair attitude?

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Women can drink pints too.

Tattoos - meh. I don't especially like tattoos but I don't object to them on women more than men.

Boys hitting girls - well, aren't boys stronger than girls? Isn't that what it comes down to? Is that actually true - given a boy and a girl of equal height/age, will the boy still be stronger? Perhaps the thing to say would be 'we never hit people smaller than ourselves'. Having typed that, perhaps 'we never hit ANYONE' is the most correct statement!

I drink pints of bitter
DD1 can act quite 'ladylike' at times but generally sorts that one by farting (thanks to her older brother she strikes a pose while she is doing it and can burp most of the alphabet, thanks Son!).
YANBU, bad behaviour is bad behaviour whether from boys or girls and should be dealt with accordingly.

OF COURSE 'we don't hit anyone' is the correct statement that anyone would think it could possibly be anything else!

i do tell my girls that certain behavior is not "ladylike". i don't have a boy so i don't have the issue of double standards. I probably am old fashioned but yes i agree manners are equally important for boys and girls.

Course i tell them all off all the time! they all have the same punishments for the same misdemeanour, but I just add that to the boys 'telling off'. I am also equally consistent with differing abilities! And I am pc in every other area possible!!!!

YANBU

They shouldn't be drinking pints in school anyway.

The ONLY thing i can think of that isn't "ladylike" is flashing your pants when wearing a skirt - and then the solution surely is to just wear trousers.

remember a teacher at school telling me I was 'unladylike' once (back in the mid90s mists of time). Responded that I didn't care as I didn't aspire to be a 'lady' thanks very much
So YANBU, your colleagues are being idiots, and it's this kind of double standard which makes me so and for my daughters trying to work out who they are and just be themselves

Goonie it's nothing to do with being pc. I just don't think it's any worse to hit a girl than it is to hit a boy. At all.

lets face it we all have different standards regarding boys and girls,but manners are different thats across the board

im not proud to admit but i do treat/expect different from the sex's as many do just dont like to admit it

i have three boys so its easier for me as dont really have that issue as such

but an example is that boys are normally allowed more freedom age wise than many girls,that happens all the time,that surely is not being equal

anyway im going of topic as always

my views may raise an eyebrow or two but im just being honest and believe that many parents have different rules regarding the sex of their child

Boys are statistically more likely to get violently assaulted so it's actually more important to protect them as they get into their teenage years.

mrs you are right but does this happen,not where im from the boys are let out earlier and thats my point really

we as parents do treat the sex's different just some dont admit it