To be worried and send a text?

[DreamingOfTheMaldives]

My husband and I are friendly with a couple who live on our street. She text me on Sunday evening to say her waters had broken and that if she hadn?t gone into labour by the following morning, she was going to be induced. They (I assume her partner) dropped a book off for me on either Monday or Tuesday with a note from her saying that she was going in to have the baby at 4pm. The reason I don?t know which day it was is that we have an outside letterbox and I didn?t check it until Tuesday evening. I sent her a text thanking her for the book and saying that I wasn?t sure when she had dropped it off but that I hoped everything was well and that their DS had arrived.

I haven?t heard anything from her and also haven?t seen an announcement on Facebook about the birth (they announced the pregnancy on Facebook after the 3 month scan so just assumed they would announce the birth.)

Although we are not close friends, I would consider us friends (going round for dinner occasionally, borrowing books and she came round for lunch only a week or so ago), and I would have thought I would have been part of the generic text sent to less close friends to announce the birth. This isn?t an expectation or anything, just what I would have thought would have happened as it?s probably what I would do in her situation.

I am worrying that something terrible has happened but don?t know if I should text her husband or not. Part of me thinks that I should leave them to it and they will get in touch when they are ready, either with good news or bad, but another part of me wants to be told everything is fine, so that I can stop worrying. I had a miscarriage a couple of months ago, which they do not know about, and I guess this is making me more anxious for them than perhaps I would usually be. Am I being unrealistic to expect that if she went in on Monday/Tuesday morning, baby would have arrived by now?

Would it be appropriate to text her husband to say I hope everything is OK, or have they got enough on their plate and I should leave well alone for now?

Send a text. Just a wondering how you are, hope all well, type of text.

I would text. Just saying you hope they are doing ok, that kind of thing.

I agree with pancake, send a ....wondering how you are.... text.

It took me 4 days to be induced with DD3 before she finally consented to make an appearance! She may still not have given birth yet! Or the baby maybe needed some extra help and they are busy in SCBU. Or they are just exhausted and Facebook is not their first priority!

I don't think you'll do any harm in sending a text. They may not reply straight away but when they see it I'm sure they'll know you were just thinking of them. Hope all is ok.

Send one saying "just thinking about you, hope all is ok"

Just send a wee text. It took DS all of 3.5 days to make his appearance after an injunction so the baby could well have not arrived. Or, if it's the DH who is making announcements - it is very easy to accidentally miss people off like a whole entire workplace, yes DP I am looking at you

induction not injunction.

I'd be worrying like mad too. As others have said you could just text and say "No need to text back if you're busy, just wanted to say I hope it's all going well x" and hope you get something back!

Thanks for you replies. I've now sent a text to the Dad on the basis of your advice and have just had a picture message and text saying they are over the moon with their new arrival and he will be home later today and inviting me round next week to meet him.

I was obviously worrying over nothing. Story of my life at the moment!

Thanks again

Great news!

Hurrah, happy news.

Lovely that you care.

Yay!

Aw, congrats to them and nice of you to think of them, op!