to be slightly suspicious of men who say they only like women with long hair?

[FeuDeRussie]

I think it's fair enough to have certain preferences when it comes to what kind of look you like, but to say that you only like long hair on women, irrespective of whether it suits them or not, is a bit IMO.

(Prompted by a friend who said today: 'sometimes I think women cut their hair too short, and it's like they're cutting off some of their beauty'...)

[FredFredGeorge]

Toffee / WorraLiberty Did you actually feel sorry for the host when he was stabbed - I always found it difficult to sympathise...

[Convict224]

Well I am a bit about blokes who are exclusively attracted to small , underdeveloped in the boobs , size zero kind of looking women. I read (or saw on the telly)that this may indicate that if they are attracted to this "pre-pubescent" type of body (and I mean only this type) then it may indicate a unhealthy sexual appetite. Course I could be wrong.

I recall this view was mooted on a criminal profiling article. It made me think of my ex boss who said he only found flat chested,, skinny small women pretty. His wife was tiny, very pretty and a lovely person, but had the body of a 12 year old girl.....or boy.......

[ethelb]

btw up until a few years ago I had v short hair (and looked v good with it, far better than most people would have done imo) and I had one or two male friends who went on, and on, and on about it. They were quite bemused by my decision to not have long hair and suggested it was the route of all my ills.

They were misogenistic pricks.

It's quite a sore point tbh as my DP went on and on about me growing my hair when we first got together. I have grown it. And he now goes on and on about how good I looked before. Obviously I have little beauty in my long hair

[ethelb]

oh the misogenistic pricks had gfs like this "small , underdeveloped in the boobs , size zero kind of looking women."

[Woozley]

When I was 22 and had short hair I hoped I was rocking the gamine Audrey Hepburn look rather than looking manly. Though one time I came back from a run at DPs house and I overheard the postman say to my dad "Oh I saw your son going in the side door..."

[ToffeeCaramel]

I think there is probably something in that Convict. Ethelb, yes you could come to that conclusion. FredFred - I didn't know that about the host being stabbed. It was something i saw a couple of times a few years ago (I may have been bfing or the baby was napping or something and i flicked through the channels.)

[Spuddybean]

long hair on men makes me feel a bit queesy, no idea why, i just irrationally think it looks really creepy, whether it suits them or not. so i suppose i am similar. DP likes my hair long (tbf i would look like a potato with it short)

dp and i have an agreement, i wont cut my hair short and he wont grow his hair long.

ExH said if i had a bob he would call me bob till i changed it (he hated bobs).

Hair is extremely fetishised.

[Pandemoniaa]

I don't see a problem expressing a general preference. I'm not attracted to very, very short hair on men myself. It gets questionable when those preferences have an underlying agenda or when someone attempts to control whether a partner grows or cuts their hair.

[fatlazymummy]

I remember being in the hairdressers once when a man came in shouting and being very abusive towards the hairdresser who had previously cut his wife's hair short. I can also remember my Dad being upset when my Mum had her hair cut short [even though she was in her 40's at the time].
Yes, I do think there may be something to it. Long hair is seen as more feminine within our society. There are also some men who can be quite controlling about some aspects of their partner's appearance. That doesn't mean that every man who has this preference is controlling or sexist though.

[fatlazymummy]

Ooh, I've just remembered when John McCirrick insulted Bridgitte Neilsen on CBB for having short hair. He was quite rude about it. He is certainly an example of someone who has fixed ideas on gender roles.

[Spuddybean]

traditionally women would start wearing it up or cut it once they were married. Having your hair long/down indicated availability/fertility/femininity. It is a cultural thing really.

[musicmadness]

I don't see a problem, I prefer long hair on men and women so I see where he is coming from. I don't think I've ever been attracted to someone with short hair, even if it suits them. That's not saying I never will be, but it hasn't happened yet!

Most people have a "type" of person they find attractive if you think about it. If you look at someone's dating history there is a good chance that there are physical similarities between the majority of people they date, certainly in my experience anyway.

[Ephiny]

DH prefers short haircuts on women. Is that suspicious?

[Snorbs]

AIBU to be suspicious of women who prefer skinny men who don't have chest hair? Maybe they're attracted to the pre-pubescent look?

[Eliza22]

I think men associate long hair biologically with youth, fecundity etc. it's in their genetic makeup.

In real life, for those men, I think long hair has become something of a uniform, especially on the young girls with the false nails/permatan/lashings of mascara look. It's all about attraction. They all look the same to me. But then, I'm quite old.

It's just a preference. Personally nothing looks worse looks-wise than a 50+ woman with shoulder length and below scraggy hair, trying to look "young". Not good as its generally not healthy and glossy looking but a bit thin and fragile.

[ifancyashandy]

Since I had my hair cut short, I've had more advances / attention from men than ever before.

You lot keep your hair long, leaves me with rich pickings

[2rebecca]

Most people have preferences, I prefer slim well toned blokes who are well educated.

[WorraLiberty]

Exactly Snorbs, I don't consider the 1000s of women who fancied Freddie Mercury or Prince as being attracted to pre-pubescent looking bodies.

[Eliza22]

Actually, I'm more suspicious of men who ONLY like women who are super skinny and from the back (and sometimes the front) look like adolescent boys.

[Alisvolatpropiis]

I prefer men with short hair. Is that suspicious? I always thought it was a preference.

[EssexGurl]

YANBU. My friend has lovely long blonde hair, as does her daughter. She mentioned in passing that she hated having to wash/dry her DD's hair (age 3) but that she can't cut it as her DH won't "let" either of them have shorter hair. WTF?! I never discuss my haircut with my DH - in fact, most times he doesn't even notice I've had it cut.

Had this discussion with a mate on Saturday and she said only time her DH had commented was when she had grown it again after a very short pixie cut. She commented that she had hated it so short and he had said he also disliked it but didn't want to say anything. That is more like it!!!

I find it very controlling. Also, very interesting how many women cut their hair after a divorce/split. There are 2 mums at school who have gone shorter since splitting with their DH's.

[Alisvolatpropiis]

Nice bit of women bashing going on in this thread "women who look like boys".

Having massive tits and arse isn't the first and last word in being feminine.

Audrey Hepburn anyone?

[ethelb]

"it's in their genetic makeup."

Oh yeh, the long hair fancying gene.

[Ephiny]

It is a bit weird that a husband won't 'let' his wife have her hair cut. Like I said, DH likes short androgynous cuts, but I like my hair a bit longer because IMO it suits me better and I like to be able to put it in a ponytail. He wouldn't dream of complaining or ordering me to cut it .

There's nothing wrong with having a preference though.