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AIBU?

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to think that telling a lie was the best thing to do in this case

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lola88 · 22/11/2012 09:19

I bumped into my friends abusive ex in town yesterday he has been hunting for her trying to track her down so when i seen him i lied and said i've not spoken to her since august as we fell out over baby clothes i gave her i've deleted her number and have no interest in her i had no idea she's moved, if she gets in touch i will pass on his msg i completely believe he's a changed man bla bla bla.

Her aunt has been in touch with me asking what he said what i said etc etc obviously she just wants to make sure i've not gave my friends address away, i told her what happened and she pretty much had a go saying i should have confronted him told him what an arsehole he is thats he'll never find her basically put him in his place and more or less implied i'm a coward for not telling the truth.

Now AIBU for thinking she is fucking U this is a man who has beat my friend threatened to rape her hit there DS1 abused animals and she seriously thinks me with no one but my 9mo in his buggy is going to tell him what we all think! I honestly think denial of all knowledge of her was best and though listening to him slag off my friend and paint himself as the good guy made me furious i would have gained nothing except a possible beating by confronting him (beating a woman in public would not be a first for him). As it stands he let me go happy in the knowledge i believed his story and know nothing about her is that not for the best?

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lola88 · 22/11/2012 20:17

thanks i would have loved to punch the bastard but where would that have got us. I was quite chuffed with myself coming up with a story in about 3 seconds and him actually believing me.

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TroublesomeEx · 22/11/2012 21:55

I'm impressed with your quick thinking too!

Well done. You did completely the right thing and I agree with whoever it was upthread who said that she was just articulating what she wishes she could say to him.

It's not your place to get involved. You protected yourself, your child and your friend.

Itsaboatjack · 22/11/2012 22:17

That's pretty good on the spot thinking OP. Well one, you totally did the right thing.

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