To ask why any sane person would take their dc's to do the food shop?

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The kids hate it, it's more difficult to do it with them (for many reasons varying with age). Why not do it online (unless they don't deliver to your area- does this happen?) it's quicker to do it online once you've set it up. It's cheaper- as you don't tend to browse and buy crap so easily. And there is no crying/moaning/complaining children to drag along. You don't even have to load stuff excess times. Ie from shelf to cashier belt to bags to car to driveway to kitchen. No brainer really?

No. Young children do not need to learn 'how to shop' in a supermarket. I'm sure that's one skill that they can pick up fairly quickly when they are at a shopping age Aspiemum
I get that often it's unavoidable, but sometimes it just isn't.
Family outings to the supermarket are ridiculous. I often see 2 parents (adults, anyway) with children in Tesco. No need - one adult can shop while one does something more child friendly (like stay at home).
It is not 'cute' when peoplle lets their children steer the trolley, or take ages blocking a section while child learns to pick a yoghurt and put it the trolley.
Sat in babyseat in trolley being good - lovely. Anything else - a pain in eery other shopper's ass.
If you're on your own with child(ren) I am sympathetic and make allowances but if I see 2 or more adults - not so much.

The downside of the Internet is that it has obviously made us far less tolerant with regard to children, years ago the only option was to take children shopping now they should only be allowed in a shop if it is absolutely necessary as it may disturb some one else's shopping trip. Odd, very odd.

I'm struggling to see why we should care whether any of you like our children and/or partners to be doing the shopping with us? If my children are disturbing your serene shopping experience, how about you do the internet shop and leave us to it?

Yes MissCelliana I will step aside and leave the supermarkets to entitled (yep, I said it) parents who don't care who's experience they are disturbing.
My apologies.

I don't see how it's entitled to take a child to the supermarket. Especially if the child enjoys being there and is well-behaved.

I've been doing online grocery shops since they started. Times have changed and I now do the on my phone using apps at work . I get murderous if I ever have to walk round an actual asda/tesco/sainsbury.

Pre online shops my mother used to do the food shop over the phone. She asked the delivery driver to put her shopping away too. And he did, every week. My mother does have a brass neck though.

Because it is only now and again, it is fun nipping round m&s with the kids for foodie treats.

You could put up and shut up, and you are welcome to stay.

Of course I feel entitled to bring my children to sodding Tesco, why the fuck shouldn't I? Since when was the supermarket and enjoyable adult only experience? Are you perhaps confusing grocery shopping with a night at the theatre or a michelin starred restaurant?

Actually Michelle they do, my ds will not pick up the skill quickly at all. He has asd and needs to be exposed to things regularly to be able to cope with them. He needs to learn to queue and to cope with crowds. I hardly think that waiting until he's 16 and coping with exam pressure is helpful for anyone.

Just as my children do chores at home they help with shopping, I've also taught them to swim, taken them horse riding, we go sledging in the snow, paddle in the sea and they climb trees, we play board games etc etc. these things are all part of a healthy, well rounded childhood.

As it happens my children are very polite in the supermarket, they stand back to let other people who never say thank you go past. They don't run around or get in the way. I really fail to see your problem or why you're so angry about it

A: I have no one to look after mine
B: I make it fun, he helps with the list and has his own diddy trolley.
So yes your being unreasonable

Well... It's not easy!
Ds1 likes Stella or sometimes if its on offer magners cider.

Ds2 likes real ale and red bush tea

Dd3 needs Tampax ( not asda own, the expensive silk type) of course! Also simple makeup wipes and moisturiser

Dd4 has to have weetoes chocolate cereal and the right pizza or her life is over.

Yeah it's a right pain!

sorry is there some unspoken rule that says we cant go shopping with our partners and our children?!

quite often dp does the shopping, he drives and i dont. he will often take some of the children as they ask to go.or i wsnt a bit of peace so he will combine a shop with a trip to the park etc.

sometimes i want to go to the supermarket, so we go and take the children. they are well behaved and we can chat as we go round, the children help decide what we will be eating and they sometimes have some pocket money they may want to spend.

there are no laws regarding children in supermarkets as far as i am aware!

My kids don't hate it, they love helping & choosing the food they are going to eat.

It doesn't take longer with them (in & out under an hour today with pre schooler in tow).

Hate doing it online as I like to see what I am going to be eating & hate their stupid substitutes.

I don't buy crap. Can't afford it. Buy what I need, makes no difference if child is in tow, if they ask for something we need, they get told NO.

No crying complaining here either! And still quite sane, to boot!

they ask for something we don't need

I hate food shopping. I don't have children but them being in the supermarket doesn't bother me. However the list of what does irritate me is very long (people who aisle block, people who run trolleys into you)
Now I shop at 3am where I only ever meet police, Royal Mail staff and other ambulance workers and if I time it right everything is stocked and the shop is empty. Utter bliss

I can't be doing with shopping tribes, but recognise that for most it's about having to do it rather than wanting to. I'm eternally grateful for having an au pair when DD was younger, so I could do an early evening shop on my own and not exhaust her patience or mine. OK, mine.

This meant that when I did shop with DD, it was the uttermost treat.

God some people really are intolerant aren't they!

Does it really matter how many adults go to the supermarket, or how many children they have with them? As long as they aren't running up and down the aisles causing chaos what is the problem?

I honestly think people who prefer online shopping don't like food much. For me I enjoy the sights and smells of a food shop.How can an hour in front of a screen compare ? When I take the dcs (not all the time) we work out the best buys together. Yes it takes longer but is a pleasure for me.

yabvu - Of course i would prefer to do my shopping in a serene undisturbed environment. But most often it's racing round a packed supermarket with or without kids. I don't really see doing the supermarket shop as an 'experience' to be destroyed by the presence of kids or any other population. Get the shopping done, get home and that's it.

And what missceliania said.

If you are able to walk to a local shop and can stay disciplined whilst shopping, it is cheaper than shopping online, because you are not paying for delivery. Even if you have to drive, it is probably cheaper.

Factor in that you can choose your fruit and veg at the right stage of ripeness, which cuts down on waste, and that makes it cheaper still.

Plus, if you realise they haven't got something, you can quickly plan a series of substitutes that will work out as a different economical meal- hard to do that if the substitutes are provided by some store attendant who knows nothing about your cooking capacities.

And to me, selecting good fruit and good meat is an important skill that I want my children to learn. It is also something I enjoy. Seeing the food helps me to plan my cooking. I'll do the banana dish when I find the shop has bananas at the right stage; otherwise it doesn't taste anywhere near as good.

Each week we ask DD if she wants to come help with the shopping, she's only ever said no twice IIRC. Not all kids hate it, or run about causing havoc and getting in the way. YABU.

The people that push in front of you as you "pull in" by a shelf or fridge, then dither, and don't seem to hear your "excuse me" really piss me off though!

I shop most ways - Internet, locals for stuff I've forgotten, big shop alone and big shop with the children (and DH). Mine like it - DH and DS re-bonded (after a bad week of late nights at work) swanning around the shop and DD loves sitting in the cart, swinging her little legs.

An online shop isn't always convenient - I need to think when I food shop in that way and I don't have the time at home with the children there - I am constantly interrupted. When you are in store you are visually reminded. In the evenings I don't really want to spend my time that way - after cooking tea I have about an hour to relax with DH.

Maybe the kids just don't enjoy going shopping with you as your not making it enjoyable for them?
My DSs used to love going to do the weekly shop as I would make it fun for them..

My dd2 has severe SN -the local supermarket hasn't got a suitable trolley for her to sit in! The last time I tried it, they offered me the adult wheelchair trolley - the 'autistic' chair (their term ) had apparently been vandalised! Dd hated the wheelchair and screamed a lot. Everyone stared and I gave up and went home.

As well for me, internet shopping is much quicker, takes maybe 30 minutes maximum to order, and 10 to unpack, compared with 1.5 hours actually going to the shop and then unpacking.

And yes to naughtymummy who said that people who online shop must hate food -I don't hate food, but absolutely loathe food shopping! The less time I'm dong it the better.