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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

I know I am a bit but how much?

50 replies

cocopops · 21/11/2012 20:17

This is a neighbour parking issue. I live in a terrace and we have 2 cars. Most of the neighbours have 2 cars and there's a church in the street so lots of coming and goings and cars.

A neighbour who doesn't technically live in our street but at the end of the terrace and who has 2 cars, a garage and lives on a main road with no parking allowed has had a go at me in the past for parking outside my house and not parking right up against the white access line- the reason i do this is that if my second car is parked close to the line, it's a nightmare reversing out of the driveway. These neighbours do not use their garage for either of theirs cars.

Tonight, both of my cars were parked on the road. As I was drying my daughters hair, this husband parked right over my driveway. I know that if a car is not parked in a driveway, it is not illegal to do this. I asked him what he was playing at, as there was a space right outside the side of his house and he called me pathetic and said why did I park both my cars on the road every Wednesday night (i don't always do this).

He said he would continue to park across my driveway if I didn't have a car on it. I eventually got him to move his car by agreeing to move mine onto the driveway but he was really aggressive and demanded to speak to my husband (who is still at work) and said he needed to sit down with us and sort it out. I said that was the last thing my DH needed ( lots of job worries at the moment) and he said no wonder married to me,

Ok- I accept it must be annoying for him to have to park further along the road but given I pay my road tax too and the fact he has a garage and doesn't use it makes me think I am perfectly entitled to leave my driveway free if i want. I think he's being a bit of a hypocrite.

Sorry this is long-'what does the mumsnet jury think. Any advice?

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izzyishavingababyAGAIN · 21/11/2012 20:19

You all sound about 5.

TidyDancer · 21/11/2012 20:19

If I've followed right, neither of you are in the wrong, but he loses the fight by virtue of the fact that he is a rude and sexist asshole.

CajaDeLaMemoria · 21/11/2012 20:19

Is there a reason for not parking on the driveway?

RancerDoo · 21/11/2012 20:21

It's on street parking and it doesn't belong to anyone. He is being a fool.

lovelyladuree · 21/11/2012 20:23

So, by having a drive and also parking both cars on the road, you are in effect using up three parking spaces. No wonder he has got the arse.

MissChristmastRee · 21/11/2012 20:23

Do you live on my road?? Shock Grin

SavoyCabbage · 21/11/2012 20:28

Obviously he is being a twat but you can't change him being a twat. You can't sit down with him and discuss your points of view as he is an arse with a bee in his bonnet.

I would park one of my cars on my drive if I was you out or courtesy to everyone on the street. Not because he says so.

NoraGainesborough · 21/11/2012 20:30

Yabvu. He did have a point originally but is now bu and a twat.

why don't you just use your drive. If you don't want to use your drive, you can't really moan if he parks across it. You are arguing that you pay 'road tax' well so does he and (as you said) if there is no car on the drive, he can park there.

Although car tax isn't 'road tax' is it?

witchitagrub · 21/11/2012 20:30

Does it matter that he is blocking yourdrive when you are clearly not using it?

LauriesFairyonthetreeeatsCake · 21/11/2012 20:31

I think you should park on your drive if possible in an area with limited parking. I don't understand why you don't when you have 2 cars Confused

MagicHouse · 21/11/2012 20:33

I think it would annoy me if parking was at a premium and someone often left their driveway free and instead parked two cars in the road. However the way he spoke to you was nasty. There are much more effective ways to sort it out than being rude and aggressive, so he's lost all my sympathy!

whatatwat · 21/11/2012 20:34

why are you worried about him parking over the drive if you arent using it?

stifnstav · 21/11/2012 20:35

Were you on bagsying the on-street space with Car 1 so that your DH could use the drive for Car 2?

DontmindifIdo · 21/11/2012 20:36

hmm, I would have lied and said you were leaving the drive free for a visitor who'd be calling round later.

But he is wrong to park across your drive. Can you report him if he does it again?

witchitagrub · 21/11/2012 20:37

Also, you mention an issue relating to you having a nightmare reversing out of your driveway. Cant you reverse into your driveway instead? Thats farsafer than reversing out.

stifnstav · 21/11/2012 20:37

Just read Cars 1 & 2 were on the road. Very annoying. YABU.

Casmama · 21/11/2012 20:40

If you are not going to park in your driveway then at least park over it yourself. I think you are quite selfish not to use a driveway if you have it. Why don't you reverse into your driveway so you can then drive out?
I agree he was probably a bit ott but why cause stress for other people when you don't need to - if you have already been asked to be more considerate and haven't been.

WiseKneeHair · 21/11/2012 20:41

Do you have 3 cars? Confused
Two cars were on the road and your DH wasn't back from work?

healstorturepeople · 21/11/2012 20:43

So you want three spaces? 2 on the road and your driveway? Seems a bit selfish to me (unless you have 3 cars for some reason).

FunTimeFrankie · 21/11/2012 20:44

Have you got 3 cars in the household then if husbands at work? If not why not park across your own driveway if you don't want for whatever reason to park in drive?

FunTimeFrankie · 21/11/2012 20:44

Sorry at the x posts!

lostinwonderland · 21/11/2012 20:50

Invite him round for a xmas beer, and try and get on with your neighbours, he might help you out sometime. Better than wasting all this energy on feeling peed off.

cocopops · 21/11/2012 20:57

Thanks for all your replies. We dont have 3 cars. I don't often park both cars on the road - just occasionally if I am getting a delivery or a friend/ parents are coming- they can then use the driveway and not worry about finding a space. Tonight i had been moving cars around as i needed to take a particular car to work tomorrow. I just hadn't got round to moving said car onto driveway but was planning to do it after dd went to bed.

I do reverse into my driveway if I am parking . My husband does not despite my protestations!

I take your point about why am I bothered if both cars are not on the road. It just annoys me as he can leave his garage free but I am not allowed to decide not to use my drive without getting it in the neck. It's not as if he has no alternative.

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cocopops · 21/11/2012 20:59

Lost in wonderland-thats very sage advice. It's difficult when positions become entrenched:(

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witchitagrub · 21/11/2012 21:05

Let your friends/delivery people sort out there own parking. Seriously, the man was rude and there is no excuse for that but its very selfish of you to take up spaces you dont need just so you can reserve parking for others.

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