To not get exSIL a christmas present/

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DB and his partner split up almost a year ago (they weren't married). They have on ds together and she has one DD from a previous relationship. I usually get them all Christmas presents. So this year D nephew and D(almost) Neice's presents are bought (DB still needs more thinking about!) I never liked DSIL much, do I still have to get her a present?? Hell, do I still need to even send her a card???

Would it really kill you to send a card?

I'd carry on buying for the children and just send a card for the exSIL.

no - but it wouldn't kill me not to either....

The other thing is I don't want her to feel obliged to get my 2DDs a present, so was just going to sned presents to my DB to give to kids on Xmas day?

What you do this year will set a precedent. I'd get the kids a present and send them to your DB. If you don't like her, you are free so don't do anything you don't want to do. If you genuinely want to or fear they may get back together send her a card.

I'd so the same as picnic and just send a card

card it is then - no kisses though!

Fart in to the envelope?

I'd sent one family present in total - something like a board game - with a family card. Can you regift what you've already bought? I agree this year sets a precedent.

I'd just get the kid a present and give it to your brother to give to him/her.

But wouldn't she be just as fond of your children as you are of hers? Why wouldn't she get them a present? Obviously she might not do either but...she was their aunt essentially wasn't she?

No need to send exSIL a present really,but a card might be nice.

Present for the children card to her and the children.

She's a lone parent now, living on benefits with huge debts (DB does help her out as much as he can and obviously gives her £ for his DS) so I don't want her to have to get them anything. She hardly ever saw my kids (we don't live close to them), hasn't gotten them birthday cards since the split, and I never speak to her (never really spoke to her much when they were together). Don't want her to feel awkward. But I still want to get DNeice a present as she is still D Nephews sister and I like her.

Ah I see OP.

Although I said maybe send a card, my mother and paternal aunt by marriage certainly weren't sending eachother cards after my parents split because they never got on.

Send her a card & presents for both kids. She is always going to be your DN's mum, so best to stay on good terms, but definitely no need for a present.

Present for the children, card for the exSiL