Not cancelling plans last minute for ex

[Lia87]

Not sure if i'm being bit unfair here, daughters dad rarely bothers to see her, usually makes excuse to change plans, but he texted at 10am saying can i see her today, so i said we'll be home until half 12, or at half 4 onwards, as have breast feeding group 1-3 then need to pick up prescription, and have plans for coffee with friend,
he said half 4 is too late so won't be over,
obviously the start of the group in necessary as she's been struggling feeding so want to speak to the breastfeeding expert there, and need to get prescription as she's nearly run out, but i could get home by 3 if i left the group early and cancelled on friend,
the only thing is he would have most likely known i had plans with friend as she'd put it on facebook, am i being unreasonable as should be doing everything to let her see him, or should i make him fit around, as its only half 4 not like 8pm or something ridiculous?

Overnight? FFS - I thought dad wanted a couple of hours...

Having seen the other thread, yep. He's unreasonable.

Oh, and ClippedPhoenix FOTTOSOFANTFOSM

So, a very small breast-fed baby and a man who keeps fucking about with the arrangements and turning up pissed. OP YANBU at all. Have a chat with a solicitor about formalising arrangements (and maintenance...). With a baby this small, it's up to him to prove he can behave reasonably; she won't suffer from lack of contact with a fuckwitted drunk at this stage.

And if his motivation is to annoy you and make you focus on him all the time, keeping a diary of his behaviour while refusing to engage with him more than the bare minimum is your best option. He may get bored and go away (which will be no loss to your DD, she isn't old enough to miss him).

yanbu. that's it.

Yanbu.