AIBU to not actually have a problem with this?

[PurplePidjin]

DP just got a text inviting him out for a curry for a mate's birthday. Mate has been through a rough time lately, the meal is fairly local to us and is a week night. DP is an occasional, sensible drinker.

However, if PidjChick hasn't already made an appearance i will be 41+4. If he has, chances are we'll have a very tiny newborn.

I said to tentatively accept - unless I'm actually in labour or full-on sobbing with hormones, i think he should go and have fun for a couple of hours. This is our first, and i have family and friends nearby.

AIB either U or completely naive?

Well he´s only going to be half an hour away-I think that´s pretty key, isn´t it?

My husband worked an hour away-couldn´t ask him not to go to work!

If you´ve had the baby you might feel differently & want company if you´ve been on your own all day.

Or not!!

Hope all goes well.

I'm going to buck the trend and say no, but only because I'm having a c--section and also have a 3 year old who would need putting to bed.

Reserve the right to say no at the last minute though, just in case!

This is pfb, so just the one to concentrate on. No CS planned, but obviously me being flattened by an EMCS would be a deciding factor.

He cycles to work, so fingers crossed i go into labour evening/night/weekend!

I was in hospital for a week post CS with my first. They send your partner home at 8pm every evening and you just had to get on with it!

Dh was back at uni 200 miles away when ds2 was 5 days old, so I would have no problem with him being half an hour away for a few hours

If I hadn't birthed and it was close to/over d-day, then I'd insist on a pint tops and being contactable at all times, but I'd see no reason to not let him go. Or maybe I'd ask for an invite too, especially if I was overdue. And insist on driving home over some speed bumps!

Noble, I'm booked in for a nice restful few days at the MLU post whatever-happens so ideally I'll still be there and he'll be hanging round aimlessly at home scrounging dinner off my mum up the road

I'll be 11 days over, and from the way I'm yawning by 7 most nights a meal out is the last thing I'd want! Could get him to bring me home a vindaloo though

Ok, my waters went at 10pm so the whole thing is completely irrelevant :o

Oh wow! Remember, breathe through the pain or fuck that and get all the drugs and dont do what I did and bit his hand so hard you go through to the bone :o

Good luck! xx

I'm home in bed plugged into the tens machine, dp's trying to get some kip but i think I'm too excited!

Ooh that was an unexpected nice twist to the thread!

Well, i figured it would be polite to update everyone! Clearly, the best way to kick off labour is to start an aibu about something first world that will be a huge drama if you go overdue

I agree with MrsWolowitz, except I might say if you already have the baby, see how you'd feel on the day about letting him go in. Your DC might be a week old by then and you may be feeling like you could cope alone for a few hours.

He shouldn't fight you though, if you don't want him out.

Why.... do I not read all the OP's posts? Best wishes! Thinking of you.

+1 for letting him go unless you are in labour, provided he doesn't drink too much. I gave birth earlier this year just after the Opening Ceremony finished (2am on Saturday) and let my DH go with a mate to the basketball on the Sunday evening (the ticket was mine originally). I had to beg him to go out but I managed fine and the break did him a world of good after a long, stressful labour. I should add I had my DM with me and that was a godsend, can you arrange someone else to be there when he is out?

Oh wow. Good luck OP!

Good luck pidj
Thinking of you & sending lots of 'sneeze birth' vibes!

Good luck. Thinking of you.

Wow! Good luck x

Argh! That's a cliffhanger to read over breakfast in the morning! Has MrPidj not been instructed to update then?

Hope all is well, enjoy that lovely baby :)

Oh wow, good luck! Hope you're snuggled up with pfb very very soon x

Oh how exciting-hope you´ve had your baby by now!

We're over on dec antenatal if you want to be nosey lurk

Good luck Pidj & Mr Pidj! Happy, healthy & safe delivery vibes being sent your way

Good luck!