To want to stop BF to get pregnant again?

[GreatOdinsRaven]

My DD is approaching 6 months and has been ebf throughout. She uses bf for comfort, sleep, food and sometimes fun! All round booby baby.
The problem is my periods have not returned and I have always wanted my children close together, the plan was to start ttc in January. AIBU to want to put my baby on formula for the next 6 months of her life in order to concieve? Is it being selfish or in the family's best interest? Please help!

I got pregnant three times while bf - 2 of those sadly ended in mc, for reasons unrelated to the bf. I went on to tandem feed dc 1 and 2 for 2 years :)

I expect your periods will return soon. With dc1 they were back at 6 months despite not having weaned yet. With dc2 it took nearly a year despite starting solids at 6.5 months.

As someone else has said, bf is only a reliably form of contraception if it's completely exclusive and frequent, even if your periods haven't returned.

It's so individual, I decided to trust in natures contraception as knew we wanted to have another baby and I'm pushing 40 so didn't want to wait, never any other contraception.
Had DD in January, exclusively BF for 6 months but she slept for longer than 6 hours at night from 3 months (thankfully! According to literature needs to be

With solids around the corner, and assuming baby takes to it, your feeds will drop and hopefully your cycle will return in the new year.

For me, the other side of the decision was how would I feel "early weaning" and then finding I couldn't conceive easily (or at all)... if I early weaned but then couldn't conceive, I would double the guilt for my child that I'd deprived them of breastmilk for no reason...

I must admit that the night feeds would be hard to break as she part co- sleeps with us (due to me being too lazy to feed her back off at horrible o'clock) and I always wake up with boobs like a deflated balloon. By the way, is that what they'll be like when I'm out of milk?

I can't imagine giving her that final breastfeed, knowing it's the last one! Do I take a photo/ video it or something?

I'm sure like with every other stage/ phase she's been through it will work it's way out.

I know some of you will think I'm crazy to want to have dcs so close together but I'm really lucky to have a great support network around me, and not have to go back to work. Also I think if I can get all the nappies/ weaning etc out of the way now, I won't be still up all night, every night, 10 years down the line.

I'll google the Agnus Castus murder (great name btw). But will try to steer clear of taking anything if I can help it.

Sorry to hear about mcs poppy, that must have been horrible.

That's my predicament jenny, if I could guarantee conception, then I probably would wean her off the breast soon. If it happens naturally then there's no guilt.

Having consulted mn and heard the responses, I think I'll go for solids first, reducing night feeds and seeing how it goes!