This is bound to be ranty, apologies in advance.
ExP and I separated before we knew I was pregnant. When I found out he told me to get an abortion. I didn't and throughout my pregnancy he stressed me out endlessly. Said he wanted to be around and would 'get rights' to his daughter (I never even hinted at keeping her from him). Bought absolutely nothing for her so I had to provide everything even though I'd lost my job.
Anyway, DD is now 7 months. We had a drama about a month ago where he didn't want to pay child support so decided he wanted a DNA test, I had to go to CSA, got loads of verbal abuse from him etc but seems to have settled down now. He sees DD for a few hours on Saturdays. He could see her more and I've offered for him to have him more but he's said no. He is expecting another DD with his new girlfriend at the end of next month.
I have just seen a Facebook status from him slating guys that desert their kids and that he's proud to say he's a good dad. My blood is boiling and the temptation to leave a comment is immense!! (I won't though)
Aibu to think that all the fuckwit fathers out there have changed everyone's attitudes to what being a good father actually means? That now, seeing your child for a minimum amount is being a good dad? If I had not provided for my daughter, denied her when I was made to (obviously not possible for a mum but ykwim), saw her only for a couple hours a week when I could see her much more, and still got pregnant pretty much as soon as she was born, would anyone consider me a good mum?!
Grrrrrrr!