To put this on my dd's pushchair?

[piglettsmummy]

Dd is on a ventilator when asleep and 'bad times' I no people will stare and it bugs me no one asks if they are so interested! Today during a 15min bus journey an elderly woman stared constantly at dd's vent (which is kept in a see through box under pushchair) I was really annoyed! If its not dd they stare at its e vent so I thought about putting a little sign on it say " it's called life support, not a freak show.... Please don't stare" AIBU?

Stick a picture of Terry Wogans cock on it, then see how they stare

PM - it must be hard if you think people are thinking that it is your fault for smoking/drinking/being a young Mum, but honestly, that woudn't even occur to the vast majority. You need, for your own and your DD's benefit, to stop thinking like that, it will only make you hard/bitter/resentful/angry etc - try to believe that the vast majority of people are feeling sorry for a little girl and her Mum because their lives are harder than they should be. If you change the way you are thinking, the world will feel like a nicer place. Honestly.

Chipping it's not what I think it's wat has been said to me! I've never drunk or smoked but to have people say that to me is very frustrating hense why I am so
Defensive about it x

Piglet, to think or even say such a stupid and offensive remark is disgraceful.

Thinking of you and your dd.

YANBU. My 4 year old is a wheelchair user and we get a lot of comments. One lady asked him why he had the wheelchair and he said it was because he had grown out of his buggy . Also some people expect him to just sit there and smile like some kind of saint because he is in a wheelchair. He sometimes has a strop when I tell him he can't have sweets like any other 4 year old.

Sorry you are feeling so judged by people staring at your (gorgeous I'm sure) dd. My eldest (of four) has downs and so we get plenty of stares. Some for the ds and some for the largish family of children trotting after me!!!! I did used to feel resentment for the looks, but now I feel so proud of how I/we are coping out and about trying to have a normal family life despite ds1's sn. He is is 9 now and he seems to be able to turn the situation round by befriending the starer and usually when the ice is broken people are so positive, kind and complimentary.
The negativity I felt in the early days was partly my issues of acceptance and now I quite honestly don't give a toss what people think as long as I know I am doing a good job caring for my children and they are polite and well behaved kids.
Sometimes the other person has a background story that can clearly explain their interest. Years ago we where eating in a pizza restaurant and I could literally feel a woman staring at our family. I was feeling uncomfortable and judged. I turned and looked at her, she came over and said 'i'm so sorry I can't stop watching your lovely family, I had a baby with downs syndrome many years ago who had heart defects and sadly passed away' she had tears in her eyes.
I hope your dd goes from strength to strength xx

That has just brought tears to my eyes Four. It just shows that things aren't always as they seem. Yes, some people are just nosy and rude socially inept, others are not and maybe would really like to engage you in conversation but don't want to intrude.

My DD has Foetal Alcohol Syndrome (from her birth mother, not me) and has clear learning difficulties. Now she is nearly 14, it's the looks she gets from other teenagers that really hurt me, but thankfully not her, as she's wonderfully oblivious.