basically, I have a thread in relationships which goes into more detail, but my x dp is basically making me feel like I am nuts. to put in in short clear terms, he is dreadful with money, owes me over £500, gets annoyed when I ask him to repay it and I have just finished the relationship as he used his half of the rent money to pay personal bills that were overdue - phone cut off, no insurance on car, etc before he paid rent. in the almost 3 years we have been together I have paid for most things, ie meals etc or at least my half.
Rent was due last friday, I was upset he hadnt paid his half and my to landlord (all comes from his account) and he promised it would happen this Wednesday at latest, he recieves money he was due on Tuesday and pays his own bills and then promises to pay it today. I left told him he was the most selfish person ever.
I think he is gaslighting me as he is sending me messages saying "im here if you need me", "hope your counselling session wasnt too upsetting" etc etc. The reason I am upset is because of his behaviour and he is now trying to make out that I have something wrong with me that is nothing to do with him.
He has often accused me of being nuts during arguments. Is this gaslighting (i think the nuts reference comes from me taking anti-depressants)