I've just realised that I may be thought of as "grabby". Help!

[MrsParty]

Ive invited dd's whole class to her birthday party next weekend.

As we invited the whole class, there are quite a few children coming whose party dd wasn't invited to. I didn't want anyone left out when invitations and so that's why invited everyone.

Now another boy in her class has a party and his mum has just text to tell me that there is no need to bring presents for his party. I just read her text and immediately felt a little embarrassed. I hadn't even thought people would bring presents as I've been so busy organising everything. I've just had this horrible thought that I'm inviting everyone to get presents for dd! I feel sick that people might think this.

What should I do? Should I message her back and tell her ill bring a small gift anyway as it doesn't seem right not giving a birthday boy/girl a gift?

I've spent over £300 on Dd's party to make sure all the children have decent gifts in party bags. I'm not a greedy person so why do I feel like it all of a sudden?!

is this your first party?

When DD & DH were 5 we were still inviting the whole class for gym based parties etc & they were invited to similar parties. It was generally accepted that something around £5 was perfectly fine, we got a mixture of tat and lovely things, we tried not to buy tat...

The other mother is the odd one out IMO, I'd buy a book or a sticker set anyway.

Some parents I know have muttered about large parties for older children (11+) as being a way of getting money to fund iPods, and some discussion about whether this was acceptable or not (one mother wrote on the invite that her DD was saving up for an iPod so money would be nice.... ). But at 5 I think presents are the norm