A thread for fellow Disney haters - AIBU to.....

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Not buy dd her heart's desire for Christmas?

She wants a Minnie Mouse toy. She is 3 - will be 4 in February.

Now - she only wants one because her little friend is a Minnie obsessive. She (the friend) has Minnie clothes, Minnie toys, Minnie bedroom, Minnie this Minnie that....and in particular, a Minnie plush toy that dd jealously covets whenever we visit their house.

I dislike most things Disney - it would be a cold day in Hell before I would shell out for a trip to Disneyland (Paris OR Florida). We don't even have the Disney channel...so dd's knowledge of Minnie Mouse is simply through her wee pal.

Of all the things Disney - the biggest turn off is Mickey and Minnie Mouse. They're ugly and irritating, and represent all the things about Disney I balk at. The merchandising, the American-ness of it all. Tasteless, brash and tacky is how I find it and them.

Now - I don't expect everyone to agree with that, but that is how I feel. We all have our particular dislikes, and things we won't cave in about, and Disney is mine. A handful of DVDs is one thing - the merchandising quite another.

I don't want to buy her a Minnie Mouse - she will take it everywhere and it will annoy the fuck out of me. Dh says no way, as he hates Disney too.

AIBU?

I am popping out to take ds2 to his swimming lesson, so I will expect to come back to a bunch of replies telling me how awful I am.

Oh - and should add - ds2 (who is a year older than dd) has now started saying he wants a Mickey Mouse, as they always like to have the same stuff. I am appalled!

When I was a child I wasn't allowed Barbie, Disney toys or DVDs and a lot of other things that my mother didn't like. It made me unhappy and bitter that I couldn't have them. If she told me she didn't hav emoney to buy it I would probably be able to understand but she was very happy in saying I couldn't have it because SHE didn't like it. Not fair at all. If I was in your shoes I would make an effort to see anything positive in it and focus on the positive side. When your children are older you will have plenty of choices to explain your values to your children and I'm sure they will pick it up.....btw I wasn't allowed cars either because it is boy's toys...

You know what I dislike about Minnie? She used to have a red dress with white spots, same for the bow. Now it's all pink. :(

I haven't seen Mickey or Minnie in anything that wasn't 30 years old or more, so I don't get the hatred. However, am also American and probably more forgiving toward the brash tacky tastelessness. :)

Exactly autum, see it from the child's pov it's not all about you and what the parent likes. Comparing it with giving th kid crap like sweets and chocolate is different, a Minnie mouse s not going to affect their health.

The child will not get the politics and morality of it all, why should they th op child is only 3!

You should reconsider about never going to Disneyland.....it really is a tremendous amount of family fun. Have such lovely memories of going as a child (and as an adult consequently).

AutumnGlory we decided with our DDs that we would let them have these sorts of things even if it put our teeth on edge. I felt and still feel that it's unfair to impose every last bit of power you can on a small child. We kept that stuff for the important stuff like safety, health and education. The rest was fun and cuddles. They are only children for a short time.

Hahaha you guys are funny. My DD are 15 and 20. They grew up on Disney films, been to Disneyland (Florida, Paris and LA), had the toys. They still love all things Disney. They are both intelligent, independent, strong minded young ladies. I don't think their love of Disney has had any lasting negative effect on them at all.
Let your DD have a Minnie Mouse toy. It won't corrupt her in any way.

Here's me sitting in my Micky mouse thermals, they are from Asda if that's ok

piglet I am jealous

YANBU - we were having a disney conversation yesterday. DD has been given two big Minnies in the space of a month. My brother never got over watching Bambi and I have been permanently damaged by Dumbo. No joke. Seriously, "Mother, mother where are you?" Oh, shot by a hunter. What?! Locked in a cage so I can't reach you, baby Dumbo...lovely family viewing. My kids will not be watching that, give you a clue.

I think the princesses are a good role model, they are kind, honest and good natured. I particularly like Belle and Jasmine, I haven't watch Mulan, Ariel, so cannot comment. Merida is a bit abrupt but rightly so. I wasn't allowed to have Princesses stuff and still drew of finding a Prince lol, I'm 35.

They still love all things Disney. They are both intelligent, independent, strong minded young ladies. I don't think their love of Disney has had any lasting negative effect on them at all.

Mine are 14 and 19 and love all things disney and really they are not at all affected or meek and mild because they watched a disney princess film although disney princess was more my 14 yr old thing,

I loathe Disney. Dd went through a phase from 3-5 of liking Disney princess shite.

We didn't buy her it. But had no problem with others doing it. So she got her fix via friends and parents in law and dh's whole side of the family. But I didn't have to go into the sodding shop or use our money. And I felt that was a reasonable compromise. She got the things she loved.

In your case op, I think I would get her the Minnie mouse from father Christmas. Or use it as a suggestion to family. It's not from you (well obv is if from FC, but at three she won't know that).

Well Mrs Jumbo was locked away and couldn't be with baby Dumbo, so I tell to DD:aren't you lucky you have your mummy with you right now? Same goes for Bambi. Children need some doses of reality in their life too I think. As for the Princesses as far as they show the Princes treat then very well indeed, I think is good for the girls to dream of being treated like that......

YABU. It's a toy. She'll be overjoyed. That should be enough to put aside your very adult thoughts and opinions about Disney. You've massively over thought this.

Personal taste aside I would buy it so that it doesn't become a 'thing'. Is there not a risk the more you make a stand the bigger deal it becomes? I reckon we all have something we weren't allowed as kids. (think there was even a thread about it a couple of weeks ago).

You don't want her to be 15 and still going on about bloody minnie mouse do you? (yes, i was exactly that persistent about the slush puppy maker i didn't get).

I see where you are coming from though, i held out against the hello kitty babygrow (a gift) until every other item was either wet from the wash or poo covered. Still amazes me that it remains the only item of clothing she has never managed to get poo on. Evil forces are clearly at work....

yabu for talking about a plush toy. what ever happened to soft toys?

Plus, in my family we still laugh about the year my mother refused to buy my little sister a Shaving Fun Ken doll, and my sister made everyone swear they would not tell mum that she had written to Father Christmas to ask for one.

Autumn I was another one not allowed boy's toys. I do think it's easy to get the impression as a child that what you really like is somehow wrong, even if your parents don't explicitly say it.

Americans are not a race, culturalist if you must.
I am American & I don't care for Disney, either.

but may I humbly submit that there is such a thing as British tacky shite, too? Saucy seaside postcards with stupid messages, Fake orange Tan, Onesies, Pebbles & twigs carefully adorned in the hallway, Mr. Blobby, Page 3 in the tabloids, The whole of the tabloid press, actually. The Evening Standard, Chav culture and Chav bashing.

yabu, it's just a toy.

MY dad told me that I would 'turn' my then 3 yr old dd because she got cars and a garage for her 3rd christmas, I am not sure what she would turn into a boy a lesbian what dad what ! was 16 yrs ago not that i am still bitter about it or anything

I'm not worried about the effect it will have on her.
I just dislike it. That's even worse! So your kids are only aloud to have things that you like. Are you going to allow them independent thought or will they have to be your mini me?!

I'm no fan of Disney and we were given practically the full range when the boys were born. I got rid of some of them but kept a few, whuch weren't really favourite toys.

Turns out though that they were just the thing for the dog. Found them very ...um... attractive and spent most of his day 'playing wheelbarrow' with them on the lawn.

Gave me the best excuse ever to get rid. I'll never be able to see Donald Duck in the same light again

I wanted to pla with cars badly and I wanted one for Christmas, they have me a mini vacuum cleaner. I than insisted in pulling it pretending I was pulling a car ....

Just to clarify - I have no problem with her having 'boy toys' or anything else. Disney is the only thing I really have a problem with, although I don't buy into tv/film merchandising as a general rule.

All of those here who are getting the 'tude over me not buying something for my dd because I don't like it....well, it's my money and therefore ultimately my choice. I'm sure none of you who are so disparaging about it, buy everything your kids want either. There will be plenty of things you lot wouldn't part with money for, even though your kids want you to...so you can do one with the whole you-should-buy-your-dd-whatever-she-wants routine.
Some of you will dislike Bratz dolls for example...and some of you Barbie. I happen to dislike Disney.

As it goes...I will probably buy her the horrid Minnie Mouse, but not because she gets to choose how my money is spent. She doesn't.