So I have a friend I met through being pregnant, our children are now 2. She quite often says things that irritate me. She often gets her child to 'perform' you know the kind of thing goes through colours etc. Well done very clever, but without being horrible I don't really care what he can and can't do. They all have things they can do and can't do they're 2 for gods sake!
Anyway, when we had the children she had a caesarean after the baby got distressed. I had a 'natural' childbirth after being induced with syntocin (had GBS) didn't go as I had planned in many ways but I don't think anyone's seems to! At the time she talked a lot about how hard a caesarean is and how much worse the recovery is and just generally how much easier and better off we were for having a natural birth. I said lots of times she couldn't compare them as she had only done one, I'm not saying a c-section is a walk in the park but a natural birth is fucking painful and it's not like there is no recovery time at all. Anyway so skip a couple of years and we're both pregnant again! She has said that I clearly had birth issues after my last birth because I was so angry and no-one could talk to me about birth. I didn't say anything back as one of the toddlers talked to me, so got me out of the situation! AIBU to wish I'd have said something like 'my only issue is with why you seem intent on putting everyone down who went through a 'natural' childbirth, you can not compare the two as you have only done one! Yes you have a scar on your tummy and yes you went through a major operation, no-one is arguing that must be hard...but I suffered a huge tear and graze and was stitched up, that hurts too actually!'
I don't think c-sections are easy, I don't know really as I have never had one, but it pisses me off that she thinks they are SO much harder, she doesn't know!
Whoops! That was a lot longer than I thought it would be! Bit of a rant too, sorry!