Party invites

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DD is in a class 19 of which are girls one child has invited 9 girls to her party and left out the rest includung my daughter. DD is upset as this girl is part of a group of 8 that she plays with and the rest of the group have been invited ahould i say anything thehy are in year 5

No.

Do NOT say anything.

Just expalina to your DD that she can't go to every party.

No. Upsetting, but this is life. This girl doesn't have to invite everyone to her party. Do something special with DD instead that day if you can. Last thing she needs is her mum kicking up a stink because she wasn invited.

What Chaos said.

just very surprised and rather upset

Do not say anything. Social suicide.

I could only invite 7 class people to DD's party this month thanks to having a shedload of family kids to invite and I know there's 2 girls who may feel a bit upset but I physically couldn't invite any more.

Such is life.

Make sure this girl is left out next time your daughter does something fun/has a party.

Such as is life.

Don't do anything. Funnily enough the same happened to my DD today. She found out all the girls in her class have been invited to a party tomorrow. She said she was upset but OK about it. I have just shrugged it off and said it's not a big deal even though I am rather upset for DD about it as the same happened with the same person last year so hard to see it as an oversight. Sigh.

She's invited less than half the girls, so it's a slight exaggeration to say the others have been "left out". She hasn't invited ten girls, which is her perogative.
Not everybody continues all class parties through to Year 5.

If the party was one that only 10 children could attend then decisions have to me made and numbers limited somewhere. Unfortunatly this means someone will be left out

This sort of thing happens unfortunately. She isn't the only one not going - that would be much worse. So if 10 girls aren't going there really isn't anything to get upset about.

Be grateful that your DD has a group of friends that she feels part of. Not all do.

There may be very valid reasons why certain girls were chosen and not your DD. You just don't know them.

This is a learning opportunity for your DD. She is going to come across this situation in different guises on many occasions. Help her learn to manage her emotions about not being invited and accept the situation gracefully. She needs to learn to get over things like this and move on. You can help her to do this by talking through how she is feeling and why people sometimes do things we don't understand.

This would do her a lot more of a favour than asking why she hadn't been invited. Also remember that sometimes we don't like the answer we get from questions like that.

Many thanks for replies will talk to DD

Maybe she's not as close to the birthday girl as you/she thinks she is?

If they really are a tight gang then there's obviously been a falling out. You can't really trust your DD's account of what goes on in the playground.

The main thing is, the majority of the class have not been invited. Tell her that.

True

Who would you say something to? No, just leave it as others have said, more people haven't been invited than have. I also wouldn't let her know that you're upset - she'll think its a bigger deal than it is.

If she's invited 9 others (plus the birthday girl obviously) I woul presume they are doing something which is priced for 10 children so she had to choose her 9 closest friends. It's upsetting for her, but definitely wouldn't query it!

will talk to dd and then ignore it

I agree with the majority. Don't say anything.

No dont such is life I am afraid

No you shouldn't.

Children are not entitled to invites. The birthday child should be free to invite who they want without parents getting involved.

Maybe the birthday child had a strict number limit and had to choose her very best friends. That is what DS is going to have to do next year. Thats life and children need to learn that.