Aibu or should i....

[justbitching]

Mess up dps night out?

back story: dp goes out every weekend even if it just round to a friends house and i have had enough i rarely go out any day of the week let alone a weekend so tomorrow night he is suppose to be going out with his friends for one of their birthdays i have also planned to go out with the girls so i asked him yesterday to look after dcs so i can go out and he told me no as he had plans with the boys.

So heres my dilemma i really want to go and he's being an arse about it i have no other babysitter so i was planning on getting up in the morning and just going to my dsis for the day and get ready at hers leaving him with dcs so he can't go out.

what do you think wibu to do this or shall i just say fook it and go?

it's easy to say leave him but in reality is is much harder.

If he is the kids dad then it is not babysitting it is being a parent. Can you flip a coin?

Why don't you both go out and get a sitter?

I know it's not babysitting and he should be looking after them no questions asked flipping a coin sounds like a good idea actually might see if he goes for it.

nokids who i would normally get to babysit are busy this week.

A proper sit down chat needs to happen I reckon. You both need to air your side and then aim for a compromise. You should both be getting fair 'fun' time, and one railroading the other til they give up isn't a solution! A family calendar maybe, with nights out/plans/events etc written on it?

Do you actually trust him to do the right thing and stay in all day, feed them, entertain them, stay in all night?

Because the more of a description you give about him the more I think you will return home to find a babysitter you don't know looking after them. Your partner does not sound the type to be thwarted.

I agree we really do need to sit down and talk i've tried so many times i think tomorrow i'm going to lock him in the house and have it out with him because it has to be sorted once and for all.

If i take the pushchair he won't be going anywhere as to get to his mums he would have to get a bus and i know he wouldn't leave them with a stranger.

You really can't lock him in the house and take the pushchair.

Have you any idea how crazy that all sounds?

I was joking about locking him in the house and if he did really need to go out dcs can walk albeit not very far.