To not get dressed and go to the supermarket to buy my OH some dinner

[Jsa1980]

I'm 20 weeks pregnant and had the afternoon off work to go shopping for his 50th birthday present. I spent hours walking around town finally got home, took off work clothes and put my pj's on.

The original plan was that I was going to get a take out but he's text me to say he's working late and could I plate him up some dinner as he may not be back until 10. I will be in bed asleep by then.

I'm completely off food so not really bothered about myself and it's freaking freezing out. The supermarket is about a five min walk.

Sorry pretty mundane and garbled post but I'm just so tired.

I don't understand why you can't order takeaway now and leave it for him to reheat when he gets in? Is that not what he was thinking was happening anyway?

Yep, get something delivered and then he can microwave it, and try to force yourself to eat something, it will help!

However, i think for future, you need to make up some home made ready meals, when you cook things like pasta sauces, lagsange or cottage pie or even soups, make an extra couple of portions, (which is hardly any extra work) and freeze - this will be handy when the baby arrives and you really can't be bothered to cook! Stuffed pasta normally freezes and can then be cooked in about 5 minutes, shove on olive oil and a few chopped tomatoes and you have an instant dinner. Practice using your freezer now, you'll be glad of it when your baby arrives!

My point is she should not have to feel guilty and that she should "do something" just because he's working all hours.

Saving up and getting extra time is what pretty much everyone does.

My point is she should not have to feel guilty and that she should "do something" just because he's working all hour

I think it would be nice for her to show appreciation though. She's said herself he wouldn't be working as he is now usually.

He'd probably be in the pub if I wasn't around!

I wasn't going to bother myself.

She's also said she's feeling tired. My DH would rather I got the rest I needed than martyr myself just because he's working extra hours.

She doesnt need to drag her self out to the shops when she's knackered to show her appreciation, there are other ways!

amazing he's going to be tired too.

Feeling tired isn't an excuse not to do anything.

Doing something when you're tired isn't making a martyr out of yourself. Its life. If the OP was that tired she'd be asleep wouldnt she?

Not meaning to sound harsh on your btw OP! Hope not causing offence here x

There's plenty of other options other than dragging herself out to the shops about a million posters upthread have suggested calling a takeaway and leaving that for him to reheat. What's wrong with that?

She has to go out and cook for him (when she herself has been work and then traipsed round town buying presents) just to make him feel appreciated?

Have a stumbled into the 1950's?

My dh works funny hours and is happy to stop at a 24 hr supermarket on the way home for a micro ready meal for himself if I haven't done a main meal for myself because I'm not hungry or had a big lunch in work or whatever. It's fair enough. But I always let him know. So can't u text him and say "not hungry for big meal myself so nothing in for tea - do u want to pick something up from supermarket on way in or order a takeaway just for you and keep it warm?"

I never said she has to cook for him, I never said she should 'drag' herself to the supermarket.

I was replying to you saying she shouldn't have to 'do something'.

Of course she should, he's working all hours to help provide for his family so something to eat when he gets in isn't the end of the world, tired or not. I've suggested takeaway too!

No offence taken to anything!

To be fair I was buying presents because it's his 40th birthday not just to feel appreciated.

I take care of the food side of things and he does the cleaning so he does his bit.

I'll sort something g out!

Aw what have you bought OP?

If you're only eating fruit then no wonder you feel like crap! Seriously if that isn't an exaggeration then get some proper food down yourself!!!!

Fairly obvious that my "do something" and the subject matter of this thead would be one and the same but I suppose it could be mistaken. I guess.

I'm confiscated his cash card so he can't really buy home self anything! (He keeps buying crap we don't need) I know it sounds harsh but I want to enjoy being pregnant (HA!) and not have to worry about money when I'm on maternity leave

Actually Ghost I'm sorry I'm in a right shit mood and im taking it out on you.

I've bought him a bansky mug! Need to get on line shopping!

Don't apoligise, go have a like me :o hope you feel better soon amazing

I'd love a Banksy mug Jsa !

Right, I'm off to bloody ASDA. I need to eat something healthy and so does he. Quorn Stir fry will be ready within 30 mins. Walk will probably do me good.

He is an adult and should be able to fend for himself
Pregnant women need to rest when tired

But snog hr hasn't asked her to do anything. They agrees they we getting a takeaway.
So from his point of view, she would be still getting it the take away and leaving his on a plate.
Its the OP who feel the need to go to the supermarket and cook something, because she doesn't want to eat.
He hasn't asked her to do anything.

No need for her to order and plate up a takeaway if she feels crap is my point though as dh can do it himself

I'm sure her DP does things for her that she can do for herself. It's called being in a relationship and loving each other snog. You do things for each other and make each others lives easier.