To really hate this other baby

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DS is 8 months and maybe on the slightly late side of developmental milestones. Eg only just decided he likes rolling etc. Well anyway, there is another baby that managed to do everything a good few months before DS -she is older than him but I know because her mum showed me her booklet and she's fecking babbling at 3 months, rolling at 4, getting herself up to sitting at 7 months etc.

AIBU to HATE this other baby with a passion???

Well AI???

This other baby, btw, is me, well according to my mum's archive of booklets just discovered in the loft. Damn and blast!

My mother swears I was fully potty trained at 10mo. I'm quite confident this is wrong.

You should hate the mum who showed you the list not the baby.
My kids rolled at similar to the baby you describe but I'd never show off to a mum who was worried about their child not reaching those milestones.

Just remember- when you look at adults you can't tell if they were an early or late walker/babbler/roller/crawler/bogey picker etc. As easy as it is to get sucked into paranoia, don't. It's a waste of time and you will look back and feel sad about the way that you feel. I bet that there are things that your baby can do better than the other baby. Milestones are a game of averages.

Babies do their own thing dd1 walked at 9 months, talked with big words at 18 months. Dd2 walked at 16 months, talked about two and lisps all over the place with terrible grammar now ds1 walked at 14 months, talking is only really getting better at 4 years! Ds2 walked at 15 months and at two speaks better than ds1 and dd2!

I was apparently able to read by two. None of mine can really read yet!

How old are you? There is some evidence to suggest that putting babies on their back to sleep has moved back milestones a bit because pushing up on arms tends to be a bit later and all other milestones follow from there. So, you can either feel pleased that your DS is progressing nicely or disappointed that you're not the developmental prodigy you once appeared to be

Were you a PFB OP? Was DM dabbling in a bit of red book stealth boasting at the baby clinic?

Lastofthepoppeople, she was probably just good at catching

Gracieuk, did you realise it was the OP's mum who showed her the list? And that the baby is the OP?

ive done it again!! sorry, i didnt read the last line - are you me?

Oh yes, I get this!

DM - You know, you were crawling at 5 months < looks sadly at immobile 7 month old DD >

Me - Yea, you can really tell < looks at fat belly and tries to remember the last time I did some exercise >

YANBU I get so fucked off with of my MIL's babies. Bloody show offs! Sitting unaided at 3 months, crawling at 4 months, potty trained at 12 months, juggling fire while riding unicycles with no seat at 18 months....

ok so I made the last bit up. But I bet I'm not the only one in this particular scenario being economical with the truth

I walked at a year old.

DS1 walked a step alone at 14 months

DD didn't walk till 22 months!

DS2 walked about 16 months.

They can all leave my wheezing carcass in their dust these days . . . it'll even out.

Don't worry - my eldest never even turned over - lay on her back like a stranded beetle, crawled for three months then at 12 months walked. She is absolutely brilliant - at everything including sport - I remember how worried I was and am now not convinced that these milestones should be cast in stone. My second did everything correctly - including cot escaping - (I could never figure out how).

Oh god yes. My mum had two genius babies whose amazing milestone-beating achievements are brought up at regular intervals.

It's even more fun when we visit my gran as she had four infant prodigies, whose potty training precociousness beat my mum's darlings into a coffee can (which is apparently what gran used to take on the tram to catch infant wees ).

SIL's & my poor children can't compete but we're not actually trying. Nod and smile. Nod and smile.

My DM persists in looking at me perplexed when my DCs persist in not sleeping, having tantrums and not eating well or eating fussily. She genuinely doesn't get it.

Because, of course, I was an angel baby and slept through from day one.

Apparently my DP said a 4 word sentence at 8 months, so there we were expecting just the same from our DD, here we are at 16months and she can just about manage "NO" reliably. Of course as soon as MIL and PIL visited it turns out DD is actually saying all sorts of things it's just no-one else can understand them.

So don't trust those baby books!

I diligently filled in DS's red book until I got bored of waiting for him to sleep through the night and pencilled in 'NEVER'. Can't wait til he looks back at that in comparison to his own babies :o

My MIL kept a tally of all the tantrums her three kids ever chucked, ever

• The Grand Total : 3

Total of tantrums yesterday from DD2 -

1. Wrong breakfast bowl
2. She put her own shoes on the wrong feet
3. I looked at her when helping her out the car

Note: These were just the ones that descended into sitting on the floor going red stage, an awful lot were diverted with the random 'look whats that' strategy.

Sometimes I hate my MIL's offspring and question why DH never cried when a child but now when a 40 something professional scientist can in a domestic situation conjure up some pretty miserable shapes.

My DS will never have this problem because I never got around to filling in his book

I am a bad, bad mother.

I filled in the book for DS1 but had no time for filling it in for DS2.

One day he will find out.

Oh this made me laugh! You should hear my MIL when she gets going.

Fwiw, my earliest walker is the least sporty of the 3 and vice versa.

And your dc will not be required to list these achievements on their future CV

Snorting at 'lay on her back like a stranded beetle'

According to my mother I never had a tantrum.

My dad tells a different story.

Dh and I were both walking and talking at 9m. What are the odd?
Rose tinted glasses I believe

Oh my goodness, are you me?? I get this all the sodding time.

Just yesterday it was "I do worry that something is wrong with your DS. At his age (13 months) you were talking in sentences. It's probably because you speak too fast, so he can't pick up words. I've been telling you for years you need to speak more slowly. I don't want you to stunt his development".

At least this one she blamed on me. Usually it's all the fault of my DH's genes.

And from age 3 months we've had "STILL not sleeping through the night? He doesn't get that from our side of the family". Gah.

If my mum is to be believed I was toilet trained at 1 year.

MIL however invented BLW, DH took an apple from the fruit bowl and ate it skin an all at 3 months!!!! He left the core aswell...