My ExH and DDs (14) father has terminal cancer (lung & pancreas). There is no treatment, just palliative care at the necessary point. She's been dealing with it remarkably well but she's started having screaming night terrors 3-4 times a night. It's quite full on, she's waking up shaking, drenched in sweat etc etc. So to add to the awfulness of being 14 and having her father dying she's utterly exhausted. She bursts into tears at the drop of a hat, is white as a sheet and has huge bags under her eyes.
DH and I are supporting her, encouraging her to talk (which she is) and we've offered her counselling (as has school who are being great) but she has refused, saying she'd rather talk to us. GP has said there isn't anything they can offer other than counselling... She's seeing her Dad and SM every other weekend (they live about a 2hr drive away) I can't think of anything else to do.
What she's really struggling with is lack of sleep, which is magnifying everything and making her even less able to cope. ExH has approx 3 months to live but that's an average, he could go next week or not for 6 months...
WIBU to give her Nytol or Kalms or some equivalent? I'm aware that they aren't a long term fix but I do think she would really benefit from a few nights where she actually sleeps through, rather than waking up terrified. Part of me feels awful thinking about it, but it's killing me to see her so worn out and fragile.