Background. We have 2 DS, 6 & nearly 4.
As children, I had a dog and DH had a cat. We are very much dog v cat people and often have discussions over which are best. DH has always vetoed idea of having a dog and insisted that he wanted a cat. So much so, that he has convinced DSs that cats are best and dogs are rubbish. Obviously now they want a cat.
I actually quite like cats and would be happy to have one.
It has been subject of lots of discussion recently - what we would call them (DS2 has a ridiculous name in mind and we have joked we can't have one until he changes his mind), whether we would have boys or girls, who would be in charge of dealing with the dead animals etc. We decided that we would wait until DS2 was 4, which he nearly is.
Anyway, I was looking on the Cats Protection League website yesterday and they had 2 9 week old girl kittens which would be perfect. Although we were originally thinking about DS2's birthday (Feb/March time) I said we should think about it as there seemed to be lots of kittens around now and might not be many in spring.
DH said if I wanted to ring them I should. So I did.
CPL lady is coming to do a home visit tomorrow.
Except tonight DH seems to be distancing himself from the idea. He does this all the time. He has listed all the cons of having them, finishing with 'but I don't mind, it's up to you'. This is purely so that, if anything goes wrong (scratching furniture/getting run over) he can say 'see, told you that would happen'.
I asked him whether he was saying that we shouldn't get one and he kept repeating 'I'm not bothered, up to you' and 'another reason for not having one is'
He is now even denying that we have ever seriously discussed getting a cat.
AIBU to say actually it's not up to me, as if it was up to me we'd be having a dog. And if he doesn't actively want one and won't come out and say that this is something he wants to do, then we're not doing it.
And that he is the reason why we're not getting one.
Tempted to leave DH at the CPL to be honest! 
AIBU?
to call DH's bluff over this
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I'm glad I'm not the only one who has to deal with a dodging DH.
I was going to cancel cat lady but don't think I will now. Think I will tell her that we want to get vetting process out of way but need to discuss best time to get one.
Then tell DH that whenever he's ready, he just needs to say the word. Probably whilst the DC's are listening 
Cat lady came and found us suitable 
They don't rehome kittens this close to Christmas so they are going to get in touch in the New Year.
DH can then have final sign off
Did manage to wheedle out of him last night that he did want a cat - although I will still get the blame if they scratch the sofa whilst he's not here
Bloody hell, how old is he, 12? There will be no blame when they scratch things, that's just what cats do. You all need to take responsibility to train it not to.
I'm sure he has his nice points OP, but right now I'd definitely be looking into some kind of dog/husband exchange scheme!
Of course Stuntgirl DH has decreed that he does not want the furniture scratched therefore he has done his bit
The rest he is delegating to me
We have a cat & a dog.
My husband wasn´t a dog person-until we got one!
I do most of the work re the dog-which is OK with me.
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