to hate my birthday

[Sluttybuttons]

It just reminds me that i dont matter to anybody. Its my birthday tomorrow and i already know that lots of people that dont even speak to me will post on facebook saying happy birthday but the chances are i wont even speak to any body and the chances of getting a card let alone anything else is pretty much nil.

Before people come along and say im a grown up and birthdays are for kids, im not looking for presents or to have a fuss made of me. It just reminds me that i have nobody in my life who even thinks about me

Ask to see another dr then. No dr should make you feel crap about asking for help.

no the doctor didnt it was the health visitor who decided i needed help with the twins so she got social work involved who basically made me feel worse than i already did. Asking for help just gives people the ability to let me down or make me feel worse

If you go to your dr and explain how you are feeling they will help you. Drs are there to treat you, I'm sure they will not be looking to involve SW. You probably need anti depressants to help you through this tough time, please speak to your dr. The tablets do work.

Slutty - you're not a crap Mum. You're a single Mum with small children who needs some support (who doesn't?). Some people have lots of support from family/friends but for those who don't, there are organisations that can help. The Samaritians would be a good place to start - they will listen. Did SS offer any practical help?
Also, I know how awful being overweight can make you feel. If you visit your GP they may be able to refer to Weight Watchers or Slimming World for free. Many of the morning classes are child friendly so you can take your little ones along.
Please try to seek help - you do sound really down, and offloading can help so much. Do you have any family or friends you can talk to? How about swapping numbers with sole and bombarding her with texts?!
Happy birthday for tomorrow and remember, to your children you are the world. I know we're on MN, but here's a ((hug)) and some for you.

Happy birthday buttons (I'm not calling you slutty )

Happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you, happy birthday dear buttons -
Happpppyyyyy birthdaaaaayyyy to you!!!!

:o

I hate my birthday, too. I don't even know why. I always get depressed on my birthday, too. But I also find it hard to remember adults' birthdays, now that I have a kid. It's also hard to feel like bothering with mine for the same reason.

But like someone else said you can invite some one to the pub or something like that. Maybe think of something you like to do. One year I went for a walk in the woods on my birthday when DD was at school. It was a bright sunny day and the woods were empty because it was a workday. Can you take the day off work if you work?

oh dear I had not read all the posts before posting.. I am sorry to hear that things are so bad... I do also get very sad on my birthday so that I understand. I wish I could edit that post now, I thought it was just birthday blues. I hope you can get the help you need. hugs.

Sorry OP - I hope you manage to have an OK birthday tomorrow.

You say you only matter to your kids, but in my opinion the most important people to think well of you is your kids (and DH/DP if there is one). Try and have a nice day with them and stick two fingers up at the other miserable people who have forgotten you.

Buttons Happy Birthday

I don't think you sound like you are "moping", and if you want to share/offload, how about coming over to this thread

Do you go to any play groups with the kids? If you came to the one I run tomorrow I would pour your cuppa for you and cut you an extra big piece of cake! (If youa re in Glasgow do come along!)

Happy birthday!!

Sorry you're feeling like this, Buttons. Hope you have a happy birthday tomorrow (today, in fact) and that things improve for you.

I'm in the same club.
Flower. Happy Birthday
I'm just another person that wishes you evrything.

Happy birthday buttons.
Hope you have a lovely day.
Be kind to yourself and stop saying unkind things to yourself.
You wouldn't say that to others so treat yourself with the same respect you show other people.

"Asking for help just gives people the ability to let me down or make me feel worse" - this sort of thinking is probably the depression talking.

"If you are depressed, you may feel that nothing can help. But this is untrue. Deciding to do something is the most important step you can take." - from the Mind leaflet I've linked to below. If you don't feel up to talking to your GP, how about a confidential call to Mind?

MindInfoline: 0845 766 0163
www.mind.org.uk
- link to Depression & Anxiety leaflet

"The MindinfoLine offers thousands of callers confidential help on a range of mental health issues. Mind helps people take control of their mental health. We do this by providing high-quality information and advice, and campaigning to promote and protect good mental health for everyone. They also provide a special legal service to the public, lawyers and mental health workers."

Happy birthday. Be kind to yourself.

Happy birthday!!!

Happy birthday!

cheers! Have a virtual drink with us.

I second talking to the doctor. It is totally understandable to be finding it hard with 3 young children, especially twins. You will not be judged for that.

FWIW I am crap at remembering birthdays. My mind is too full of other things. It doesn't mean I don't care about other people.

Happy Birthday, I hope somethinggivesyoureasontosmile today even if it is playing a silly game with your children.

Sorry you are feeling lonely, Have you found out if you have a twinsclub near you. I have twins and found going to a twinsclub once a week really lifted my week andgave me a group ofpeople to talk to who understand how hard it can be having twins.

If you need someone to talk to about twins, feeling lonely, depressed etc and want someone to talk to please phone twinline on 0800 138 0509

Another one here with twins and crap birthdays! Totally understand the help issues. There is a dearth of cards here, despite my large family.

Have a good one

If you can't rely on anyone else, get some paper and crayons and make cards with the children, get a cake with a candle on it and sing 'happy birthday', and watch a video. They will love it anyway, and maybe you can teach them to enjoy it for the future.

One of my best birthdays ever was when they were about 7. OH was away and we went to the cinema to see Stuart Little.