Ds1 is 6. Ds2 is 16 months. Ds3 is due to be born any day (I'm overdue)
Pil have Jo contact with our children as dh and them have always had a difficult relationship.
My dm and df have been separated for 20 years. My dad brought me and my db up.
I see my mum weekly, though she is a functioning alcoholic an she has never looked after the children. She has offered many times. But we refuse.
Dad is living with his partner. They've been together ten years + but we only found out about it 3 years ago ish.
Now I know in a bit of a clean and tidy freak, but df house is a mess. Crap everywhere. They border on being hoarders. House is dirty too. They rarely Hoover, dirty kitchen, have to move things to sit down, just dirty and messy. We rarely go round.
His partner makes me feel unwelcome and she has a bad attitude, is rude, doesn't know when to keep her mouth shut, is bone idle, thinks she's being funny when actually she's just being childish.
Anyway, they have seen our ds2 maybe 20 times at most since he was born.
Df has just rang me and offered to look after the boys when I go into labour. I said we've already arranged their are between my best friend and my brother-depending what time I go into labour, how long I lasts etc
He started having a go at me asking what the problem is with them looking after our boys, rather than us leaving the boys with strangers. (They see the boys every week, my dad doesn't know my friend) he said the boys can stay at his house, they're both there to look after them, they know what they're doing etc.
He is now deeply offended I refused the offer, cut short the conversation and was wally short with me.
Would you let him have the boys when you're in labour if you were me?
I'm so annoyed he's made me feel guilty, and worrying about he feels.