My lovely mum watches DS (13mo) up to 3 days a week while I'm at work - an arrangement reached after she got actually offended at my proposal of getting a childminder. I'm very grateful etc., and try to show this in all ways I can. I'm not complaining about how my mum cares for my DS, before anyone starts with 'well, you should pay for childcare...'.
DS was born at 32 weeks but has recently come on in leaps and bounds and has very nearly 'caught up'. We started weaning him at 23 weeks with purees (as per the prem weaning advice), but quite quickly moved on to finger foods etc., and he now eats pretty much what we do. Mum sat me down for 'a talk' today - she said she'd 'been thinking' and didn't think we should give DS chunks of food he could feed himself any more as she was worried he'd choke, in fact she thinks it's inevitable that he will eventually choke if we keep allowing him to eat this way. A few times he's gagged when he's shoved too much into his mouth, which my mum thinks is choking, but at no point has his airway been obstructed, DH and I see this as him learning how to eat!
I very bluntly (but nicely and politely) told my mum that how she feeds him when she has him is up to her and as long as he gets enough to eat I've no complaints, but when with me I'll continue feeding him how I choose. I did an awful lot of research before weaning and I'm doing it the recommended way - his diet is excellent and I don't think anything I give him is age inappropriate. She huffed for a while but accepted my changing the subject. AIBU to tell her (nicely) to butt out? It feels kinda wrong to be telling my mum I think she's wrong, but I feel very strongly about it!