In wanting to postpone MIL visit when DC are ill?

[Redwhine]

MIL is visiting tomorrow. Last night one DC was sick and I was up with him in the night. Today other DC has been sick three times already. I know the way these things tend to go... I usually get it day two/ three and we have a night of no sleep, constantly rotating beds, vomity sheets etc! All great fun and par for the course with two little ones. But I don't want to be dealing with a guest on top of it.

She doesn't work, so could come any other time.

She has seen the children in the last few weeks.

She has never even changed a nappy, so can't really see her being helpful with d and v and the mess that goes with it.

I want to reschedule. DH says its up to her if she wants to come or not. AIBU?

Is there an update? Is she still coming? I really hope not - or if so you update in a couple of days to say she's got the lurgy...

I think if you don't feel up to coping with a guest on top of sick children you should absolutely postpone, insist on it.

Why not just let her know about their illness and how long you expect it to last, and then say that of course she can still come and in fact it would be great to have her help with showering the sheets off, the laundry and mopping/ scrubbing the floors. Then you get the best solution: either a helpful guest pitching in or no guest!

Oh this reminds me of my mother coming to visit when DS2 had a bug.

She insisted. She never catches these things she declared. She caught it too. And spent an extra 5 days recovering at our house being rather dramatic.

Go for the veg soup idea. Take a stash of books and biscuits and only exit for lengthy visits to the bathroom.

It is difficult to say no when her own son has made it clear she is welcome to visit.

I agree with Cansu's approach. When she arrives, I would thank her effusively for coming to help. If the DC are well enough I would ask her to take them out. If not ask her to entertain them whilst you sleep. Don't be a martyr and run around after everyone.

How helpful is your DH being with the DC?

tell her to come another day the children wont be up to a visit anyway, I hope they are better soon