But can't you get him something more Manly?

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AAAAAARRRRRRGGGGGGG!!!!!!!

Where do I start?

a) I don't actually feel any need to make my TWO YEAR OLD ds manly
b) How is a cooker not Manly?
c) Dear MIL, you are being so crap about DS1's SEN, please don't start being crap about DS2 as well!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Send her to mine where my 7 year old is currently playing with his teddies and sylvannian families. She can purse her lips and complain I'm turning him into a girl. (He's even got long hair and everything [hshock])

Refer her to Gordon Ramsey.

My PIL don't like the idea of DS getting a kitchen. Well, he choose one from the to library last week and he's loved it.
We treated him to a toy at the weekend - a toy vacuum. But to be honest, he's only seen DH use the real vacuum....
My DBrother is gay. He only played with guns and the other 'stereotypical boys toys' as a kid.
And on the theme of boys/girls toys, have you tried to get a bicycle recently that wasn't obviously 'boys' or 'girls' but was just a kids bike???? Gah!

Ds had a cooker the Christmas before last. He played with it to the exclusion of everything else for months. He also has a hoover and regularly hoovers round the living room

DH works PT then is at home with DS so to be fair DS sees his dad cooking and hoovering so some of this may be wanting to be like dad. This is rubbish! Cookers encourage boys to be involved in cooking as they get older, they don't turn them into women / effeminate.

DS also has a blue pushchair - ELC have them. You could get your DS one of those and just watch your DMiL explode. And then point out that her DS pushed a pram so it's not a woman's job.

Oh I should get him an iron, (only daddy irons in our house) and a buggy and a Hoover. Watch her head explode! I might do that actually!

The best chefs are mostly male and possibly not gay.

I got DS both a tool bench/box and a kitchen. He didn't play much with either.
He's a wheels and balls boy.

My Grandfather said similar about the kitchen I bought for DS1. 'It's for girls'...

My MIL thinks that DD (16 months) should be surrounded in pink girly stuff and really gender stereotypes, I hate it. They are staying this weekend and I encouraged let DD choose some blue and green spaceship sleepsuits today, she loves them and wouldn't put them down. I can guarantee at least one 'boy' comment regarding them.

Why can't you just laugh and get what you like anyway and stop getting so "politically offended". It's obviously a "generation" thing isn't it.

I bought DD a play kitchen for her birthday. It is great and doubles as cupboards when we have had enough of 4,000 stuffed animals. Her favorite toy is a screwdriver though. You can't decide what they will like. Play kitchens are great for boys and girls.

The Ikea kitchen is lovely - my ds would love cooker! He loves the play food and utensils though.

Can you get a Barbie doll as am sure that mil would be hopping if she saw him with one of those

Going through the exact same thing. Ds Loves toys kitchens. At playgroup/friends houses, its hard to get him away from them. But my father and DH are apparently trapped in the stone ages. He's still getting one.

DS2 is getting a supermarket trolley for Christmas. It's lilac. H eloves shopping with us. He also has a cooker. My friend's DS likes play hoovering!

I'm also going to get DS a kitchen when he's old enough but I am quite known for not giving a stuff about things being entirely "gender appropriate".

I had to buy DS slippers recently as he is wanting us to hold his hand while he walks about the house all the time now but I couldn't find any boys ones that he would either have on his feet or would fit him so I bought him girls ones, the only even girls ones I could get he would keep on were pink fluffy leopard printy ugg type things with bows! DP was not happy and the rest of the family definitely didn't seem to happy with it, I seen no problem with them, he would only be wearing them in the house anyway! A couple of days later a family member bought him a different, boys pair but he wont bloody keep them on!

In these threads I don't understand why you just a can't put it down to mother in laws saying these things due to probably coming from a different generation.

When my son was small I used to take note of seeing what "he" liked to play with in playgroups etc. and buy accordingly, whatever it was.

All this "Oh look how un-gender biased I am" rivalry is just silly.

My son played with his sisters dolls buggy more than she did! He at 14 is now a marine cadet and wants to join the marines/ army! He also played often with her toy kitchen...never did him any harm! He is taking catering GCSE and so keeps me supplied with real food now!

What generation, ClippedPhoenix? I am 49, and the women's movement was well under way when I was a girl.

There are plenty of ancient feminists. It's not like it's a madly left-field 21st century concept that got thought up by a bunch of whippersnappers last week.

Snap! so am I. 50 on saturday