To not miss my DH?

[BobbysBeardOfWonder]

I'm at my parents' with the DC for a few days, have been here since Friday.

DH is at home - well, at work, but YKWIM.

I'm not really missing him though, like I usually do when I'm here. Is this normal? I'm normally on my own all day during the week with the DC so it's nice to have some extra hands.

I just spoke to him on the phone & felt a bit sad that I didn't miss him, if that makes any sense.

tbh, if you can't cope without missing your partner desperately, isn't it a bit of an indicator your relationship's a bit weak...?

Mine is going to the other side of the world for 3 weeks in December

Am still laughing my socks off at Kingcrys post upthread.

I'm just imagining :

Kingcrys DH is feeling a bit lonely and decides to send Mrs Kingcry a text :

'Hi honey, just to let you know l love you and l am missing you terribly. Are you missing me too, my darling? xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

His heart misses a beat when he sees shes replied within seconds. 'Ahhh bless' he thinks - she must have been waiting for his message.

He opens her reply eagerly...................

'NO'

I love time on my own.
Have just been shopping on Kings Road, coffee, nice lunch, glass of wine, came home to an empty house.
Bliss.
Ds has just come in and told me dh is on the golf course, back about 6.
I am smiling.

Oh that sounds blissful

Sudaname- something like that, yes!!

I spend a fair bit of time apart from my husband and I rarely miss him. I do my own thing and i'm happy without hime for a while.

I feel something when i first see him again though, that i can't quite explain, like as if all the weeks of missing him comes out in one big emotional blob all at once and i feel quite emotional then.

I don't really 'miss' people on a day to day basis if I know I can contact them if I want to. I miss people who have died, dreadfully. I get really, really upset in the build up to someone going away or me leaving again (the other side of the world usually) but not if it's just a few days/weeks - only if I don't know if when I'll see them again. However, once they've gone or I'm on the plane I don't actually miss them. People always say to me 'Oh you must miss them all being so far away' and I don't know what to say really - I don't and I feel funny about that tbh... but I also get that 'rush' when I see them again, like Anna said - very emotional.

But not when a partner goes away for a few days, no, that's just bliss!!

If you were home without anyone then I'm sure you'd miss him more - would still take the opportunity to do whatever you fancy with no one around - long baths, wine etc but the quiet moments would be more obvious - but now you've got your dp and dc around so plenty to keep you busy

Mmmm long baths...

DP does this. Goes away and rings, lovingly, to say he misses us.

Er...well, we're functioning quite well, actually, bearing up, and frankly you are in a hotel room without any bleedin' darling children around you so why are you wasting time making loving phone calls instead of having a small sherry in the bar???

My DH works away some weeks... I love it

I used to hate it but now I like being able to do my own thing and get on... I don't think it means I love him any less, I am just happy in my own company and love when the dc's are in bed, dishes are done, glass of wine, bath and a good film mumsnet!