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to be annoyed at trick or treaters who get offended when I say "No I don't celebrate Halloween

105 replies

CwtchesAndCuddles · 30/10/2012 10:22

I hate Halloween!!! As a family we have as little to do with it as possible which is our choice. If other people want to have parties etc that is fine, carry on and have your fun, I just don't want to join in.

I do not invite callers to my house, there are no decorations up, so please do not knock on my door and then verbally abuse me for not taking part!!!

OP posts:
lisad123 · 30/10/2012 10:22

Just don't answer the door

Only4theOlympics · 30/10/2012 10:23

Or put a sign up?

Mrsjay · 30/10/2012 10:23

DO what I do and dont answer the door they will go away,

ScaryBeardyDeadyman · 30/10/2012 10:23

Get a sign that says don't bother and stick it on your door. Most police stations offer them.

LolaDontCryOverSlitThroats · 30/10/2012 10:23

Don't answer the door.

[hconfused]

ClippedPhoenix · 30/10/2012 10:23

party pooper, yeah just don't answer the door.

Kalisi · 30/10/2012 10:24

Second not answering the door. Why get my their hopes up?

WorraLiberty · 30/10/2012 10:35

Yeah just don't answer

I have to say in the 15yrs I've been trick or treating with kids, I've never heard of anyone getting offended that someone doesn't want to take part.

Yet I often read it on internet forums. Maybe I just never meet these people.

CwtchesAndCuddles · 30/10/2012 10:38

The point is why shouldn't I be able to open my door?

Do you all encourage your children to knock on strangers doors who are not inviting people to call by decorating?

OP posts:
ScaryBeardyDeadyman · 30/10/2012 10:39

printable poster on this site

WorraLiberty · 30/10/2012 10:41

The point is why shouldn't I be able to open my door?

But you can open your door?

Mrsjay · 30/10/2012 10:42

of course you can open your door and say no thank you and close it again , is it the scary masks that you are scared of bet it is Grin. It is halloween kids go out people don't need to give, no I don't decorate I don't know anybody who does

CaptainHoratioWragge · 30/10/2012 10:45

Worra, possibly it depends on where you are based?

In our part of South London Halloween is somehow massive and we don't celebrate it for religious reasons (we just dont answer the door on the night) and every flippin year we get some sort of vandalism as a result- flour and eggs through the letterbox, car keyed, plant pots up the walkway overturned etc.
It gets a bit grim...

PumpkInDublic · 30/10/2012 10:46

No, my son does not trick or treat, he is too young. I haven't decorated. I will have sweeties tomorrow though. I haven't invited them to knock, but it's a fun part of childhood that I enjoy. Decorations don't equal invite.

I don't like fireworks, they scare me. I will be able to see the display from my window and hear it. I can have my windows open, or I can shut them and the curtains and bang the radio on.

Either, choose not to open you door. Or choose to open your door and say no thank you. You can open your door, it is a choice. HTH.

aldiwhore · 30/10/2012 10:46

We tend to only visit houses that have a pumpkin visible. Saying that you cannot change everyone else, only how you react to it, so I suggest a sign, or if you have to open your door, a polite sorry I don't celebrate will suffice.

YANBU to not celebrate Halloween. YANBU to find it irritating. YANBU to be angered when met with rudeness. YABU to expect the world to change for you...

MaryZcary · 30/10/2012 10:46

But it's not Hallowe'en yet?

Has anyone knocked on your door yet?

Wait until tomorrow to be offended ffs.

ComeOutFighting · 30/10/2012 10:47

All sorts of people knock on my door unbidden, it isn't restricted to halloween; Religious types trying to tempt my towards Christs bosom, Irish men trying to sell me leather sofas and render repair, over enthusiastic teenagers asking me for my money for charitable causes....hugely more irritating than children doing trick or treat IMO

round heres you only knock on doors if the house is decorated..it works well

trying making the little loves some Toffee-Onions??? That'll learn 'em Grin

GhostofMammaTJ · 30/10/2012 10:48

Just put a sign up!! My elderly friend who lives alone does it and gets no trouble at all.

I live opposite her and decorate the outside of my house to show they are welcome. I have an average of 120 children to my door and enjoy it. My children go out with their dad and go to houses that are decorated.

singinggirl · 30/10/2012 10:51

It does depend on whether or not your local children play tricks when you don't answer the door and give them treats. It is also irritating when you have no pumpkin out, people knock anyway (freaking out the dog because it is happening so constantly) and then on one occasion having a rant at me because my dog scared her child! I have a dog. If you don't like dogs barking, don't ring the doorbells of households you don't know who may have dogs!

CwtchesAndCuddles · 30/10/2012 10:55

In the US the etiquette is very much that you opt in to taking part by decorating your house, putting up a poster etc and everybody accepts that.

Here people who don't want to take part have to put up with being pestered, why should they have to put up posters or hide in doors with the lights off? My elderly neigbours are panic stricken already thinking about tomorrow night.

If someone knocks on my door I have no problem in politely saying we do not celebrate halloween - but a lot of people have a problem hearing it.

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altinkum · 30/10/2012 10:58

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freddiefrog · 30/10/2012 10:58

Round here, the unwritten rule is if there's no pumpkin, you don't knock.

I only ever let the kids knock if there is some indication that the householder is willing to take part

Fortunately everyone respects that

WorraLiberty · 30/10/2012 10:59

So you get a lot of offended people?

Here they just move on to the next house if no-one answers.

You don't have to put a poster up, you don't have to switch your light off for a few hours, you don't have to do anything.

But if you're being bothered by offended people, then it seems sensible to do one or all of the above.

Musomathsci · 30/10/2012 11:00

I'm not sure about putting up a poster. I usually leave all the lights off and hide! I disapprove of trick or treating, and don't answer the door nowadays. Previously when I have answered and turned people away (politely, not rude to them or anything) I have had eggs thrown at the house on more than one occasion. I wonder whether putting a poster up would generate a similar response :(

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