I have this friend, I'll call her Fiona.
I know FIona through our children being at school together. Met her in the playground really. Our kids don't really play together but after much badgering I accepted invitation to go out for coffee one Saturday about 2 years ago and 'friends' since.
Fiona and her husband area always moving house, I've noticed. They are in rented because they moved to Australia and it didn't work out (they lasted 3 weeks). Every few months they sell all of their furniture and move in with Fiona's parents. They then spend their salaries on a big family holiday (just went to Florida this summer) before it all goes pear shaped and Fiona can't stand living at home anymore and they move out.
Every time they do this, they have to buy everything new all over again. This is obviously expensive so they usually beg/borrow. I have recently given them some things we had in the garage (a wardrobe and two beds) as they are moving into rented again. I've just found out she has actually given these items to her sister.
Fiona is quite unpredictable. About 6 weeks ago she turned up unannounced at 9pm when I was soaking in the bath. DH came to get me. It took me about 10 mins to sort myself and come downstairs as I'd been washing my hair. Fiona was sitting in the living room, having 'popped by' for nothing in particular. She doesn't always reply to text messages. She says she will phone and doesn't, saying it had 'got late' to call.
We invited Fiona and her DH to a bbq over the summer. It was an evening BBQ but they came at 4pm because they were 'in the area'. We have an 18 month old who needed sorting out so this was really inconvenient. They seemed to have no idea how inconvenient this was (their kids are 8/12)
I'm having a bit of a 'last straw' moment. I was supposed to go out with Fiona on Friday night. She had suggested meeting up as we hadn't seen each other since June really. She suggested going to her local swimming pool for a swim and coffee, which I agreed to. When I told DH this, he was a bit put out because he had arranged for us to go out and asked a babysitter. It was supposed to be a surprise. I'd already made this arrangement with Fiona and thought it was bad form to cancel so DH cancelled our evening out.
During the week I was unwell. I was better by Thursday but didn't feel much like swimming so I texted Fiona explaining I'd still like to see her but I'd been unwell so was asking if we could do something other than swimming. I made two other suggestions (pub/restaurant). She replied to the text with 'can I let you know tomorrow what I'm doing?'
On Friday she didn't contact me so the evening came and went.
On Saturday she texted me, apologising for not getting back to me on Friday. She said she'd been out to see another friend and it had 'got late.'
I feel really let down and think her behaviour is thoughtless.
WWYD?