Not sure if iabu or not. Just lost original post so will be brief.
My sister recently stayed with me for ten days. This visit was longer than usual because I haven't been able to see my family much (300 miles away)and as she offered to help out as I have a slipped disk and still recovering from my csection and extra surgery which I had in July.
During the visit my sister did a little to help in terms of changing nappies for me etc but mostly was unable to look after herself e.g. Did not make cups of tea but expecting a lot of them throughout the day. As she is a guest in my home I wanted to make her comfy etc and maybe made a rod for my own back.
It was agreed prior to visit that she would buy a shop as a contribution. She spent £12. She did offer £50 but I felti couldn't accept as she moaned alot about money. She bought lunch on one occasion (£20) and although she said she would pay for her travel she didn't. This meant one day I cancelled plans for an outing for my 3 kids as I couldnt afford it. Her husband stayed for two days and ate everything in sight. Even brought himself a bag of goodies which he would sneak off to eat after polishing off all the treats etc we had bought.
Aibu to think that she would follow through on agreements? It doesn't sit comfortably with me to take money as she was a guest and how could I accept money after the orchestrated convo about struggling for money. They are very tight by the way and are always skint despite the grands they have in the bank.
(when we stay with her/my mum in the past we pay for several food shops, all our travel, buy treats for them and give money so it's not like we expect not to pay our way and they do the same iykwim).