My sister and I have not seen each other for about 3 years - there is a distance of a 100 miles in between but we both drive, and it's just both of us feel there are more important ways to spend our precious amount of free time than visiting the other one.
We have both said in the past that if we weren't sisters there is nothing about the other that would draw us together as friends, we are just very different from each other and have a very different outlook on the world.
Due to not seeing each other, and having very sporadic contact with each other via phone (about every 6 months) we don't know what the offspring are into this makes present buying very difficult.
Our children are now late teens, and I just don't see the point spending money on something that I don't know the recipient will want when funds are tight on both sides.
I've not spoken to my sister since March, but she's moaning to our mum that I've not sent gifts this week for her kids birthday.
I've said to mum that it's pointless to send gifts to someone I don't speak to for months on end. And mum has said that she is family so I have to send gifts.
AIBU to think gifts aren't a given right, and in our circumstance its pointless to send gifts just for the sake of it?