I work in organistion that visits older people at home to help them, a new member of staff visited a family at their home to help them, cant really go into what or why we go but just trying to paint a picture that we are there to help. Any way after one of her visits to a house of a family, she came back to the office and started telling the story of her visit. There was 2 people there including me and her.
She started the story about how dirty their house was, then said they were the fliddy family and the man came in with his weird hair.
This was as far as I let her keep talking.
I said excuse me what did you just say?
She was unaware of anything just basically said "what"
So I said you do realise what you said is very offensive
She then said what is
I said that is an quite offensive thing to call someone
She said why no its not.
She was completely clueless to what it meant.
She then said whatever.
This is when I said, I am offended by what you just said, you don't even know what it maens, I don't think we are the organisation to be giong to visit vulnerable people at home and then come laughing about then in the office.
Noone else is at all like this.
The other person in the conversation said nothing, she opened her mouth but then shut it again, then said " oh go on" , kind of trying to get back to the general talk about the visit.
She then said well i cant tell you about the visit cos shes offended.
Then nothing more was said it all went silent.
I have said nothing more about it but she now has been very diffilcult to work with. She is saying i am making more out of it than it is.
Other than the three of us there noone else knows about this, she says there is nothing wrong with the word fliddy, i say there is. She has become nasty about this.
AIBU in thinking describing someone's family as "fliddy" is massivley inappropriate?