My husband just pulled my chair away has I sat down......

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At my sons school disco in one if the classrooms where the children were getting drinks why would any one do that!!! I laughed it off but I was mortified really plus I think I've hurt my back from leaning in the floor
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That's the kind of thing a 7 year old would do, until his parents tell him off for hurting and humiliating someone. Personally I regard any adult who does that kind of thing to a loved one, or anyone else, as a bully, maybe that's just me.

Have you told him that he hurt you? If so was his response appropriate in your view?

He's a wank badger

good points adora

Please tell your DH not to do this to ANYONE, EVER. Someone did this to my dad when he was 13 - it broke his hip and he was in a wheel chair for 6 months. He was told by his doctors that he should never do contact sports, skiing etc again.

I would probably never have thought of it at the time if it was me but you should have stayed on the floor and made out you'd really hurt your back, thereby proving to any children present what a dangerous thing it is to do and at the same time making him feel really guilty!

Idiot, so dangerous. I severely bollocked ds when he did this to dd, but he's 5yo.

Your husband is a douche!

I think he pulled it out and I was meant to notice or he was meant to put it back before I sat. He can be childish and do silly things like we all can sometimes in jokey moods. But the was embarrassing and has actually hurt me could of been worse luckily the chair wasn't high an the floor was carpeted.

I should of seagulls. He takes things too far some times

Sometimes you do something that is utterly stupid beyond belief and you don't know why you actually did it.

YANBU. But he's not a 'bully' and you shouldn't leave him, hopefully he'll feel utterly stupid, in which case, let him feel stupid for a while.

I once, for no reason at all, pulled my friend's new trouser/skirt combo down in a full pub... the second I did it I felt like the wanker I acted like. I was actually as shocked at my behaviour as my mate. I have no idea WHY I did it (being pissed is a poor excuse) I have never done anything like it before, and was quite rightly treated with contempt. She forgave me eventually, actually after she'd done something equally as twattish a while later (like years!).

It's not acceptable behaviour at all, but may not have any deeper meaning than a stupidly bad moment. If your DH feels bad, let him feel that way for a bit, but forgive him.

If he does this sort of thing regularly and is a general arse, leave the bastard.

YANBU. (I still cringe.)

If you are still hurting tomorrow it may be more than bruising please get yourself checked over by your GP. What a twatty thing to do, your DH wants to grow up.

You're right to be embarrassed, not for falling but for being married to the pillock.

DS3 had this done to him at school when he was 8. He fell backwards and cracked his head on a radiator. I had to take him to hospitial to have butterfly stitches in his head.

What an immature prick.

Vile thing to do and dangerous.

OP you need to be ripping him a new one, not laughing it off and pretending it's your fault!! Just calmly tell him that if he ever considers doing anything like that again, you'll tear him limb from limb... and mean it. Practical joker indeed. Selfish arse more like...

A girl did this to another girl (daughter of an administrator) in my school many years ago. She has never walked again, has been confined to a wheelchair and her parents have found life very hard trying to care for her. You should rip your husband a new one. does he realise how much your back is hurt now? Has he actually said sorry as it sounds like he's laughed it off as ou laughed due to your embarrassment?

Has he done anything else like this before? I actually find this really disturbing, did other parents see this? they will think he is a cunt, they are right. How is your relationship otherwise?

Show him this thread if he doesn't quite get how bad it is to do something like that.

And no one who saw it would have laughed at you; there might have been a few nervous/embarrassed titters but the general reaction would have been, "that poor woman, why has her DH treated her like that?"

You need to feel he truly understands that what he did was dangerous and upsetting. And then he needs to make it up to you!

i would make him do all the bending sitting/anything jobs that might exacerbate your back if you have to do them. ie he should feel the consequences for being a prat.

I fell off a wall when I was 10 and my coccyx still gives me the occasional ache. it was agony for months and I could not sit on the floor for years afterwards.

I agree with lucyellenmum . I think of myself as being pretty laid back but that was seriously not ok! I would have absolutely exploded at anyone who did this to me ( or anyone I saw doing it actually) I fucking hope it was an accident because otherwise your Husband was being both incredibly stupid and very cruel! You need to have a serious talk with him. NOT funny.

WTAF! :(

I think you should get him to take you to get this checked out at hospital tonight. What a dick.

Fucking hell.

That is out of order. If my DP did that, he would be on the sofa.

Get yourself checked out. I fell on some outside steps and landed on my backside -. Turned out I'd split my coccyx and I was in pain forv6 months. It's a nasty injury and not something to laugh about. I did it 20 years ago and I still get twinges!