to not let my 14 year old to watch an 18 even if it is for English

[Mrsjay]

DD2 English teacher has said if they had it they could maybe watch an over 18 film because they are reading another book is by the same author, I am really not comfortable with her reading the book anyway but I certainly dont want her to watch the film,

I think mainstream films are the least of your worries to be honest - the stuff that kids watch on Youtube is what people should really worry about.

It doesn't mean people should worry any less about mainstream stuff just because there is vile stuff on You tube.

If you'd heard what they discuss between themselves and even openly tell staff about having watched the night before, Trainspotting in all of its glory would seem tame.

I do know - still doesn't make me worry less about mainstream films.

But whathasthecatdonenow, dd would never choose to watch such things on YouTube. ds2 would, but he wouldn't be upset by the film anyway.

So it's difficult for children who know they wouldn't like it, who don't want to watch it, but don't want to admit to being the only person who hasn't.

If that makes sense.

There's always something worse. Doesn't mean you give up on caring, though, especially if you have a student in your class who might have had a shit experience recently in the family re SIDSa and not know that that's in the film.

As they say on 'tinernets, Your Mileage May Vary. I find it difficult to get het up about a suggestion that puts the ball in the parent's court. If the film were shown in class then I could understand, but that is obviously not the case or the teacher wouldn't have said they could maybe watch it if they had it.

I actually thing what's attitude is quite a dangerous path to go down - so let them do anything because they watch it all on you tube anyway so we might as well not discipline them at all?

I am not naive to think my daughter is innocent anyway her phone settings are rubbish they are so high she cant view much anyway I do think mainstream is something to worry about and I am not really for censorship for censorships sake but there is things I don't think are appropriate for a 14 year old,

I can only speak as to how I approach this - we tell the kids exactly what they may see in the film that could be upsetting, and tell them to talk to their parents about whether it would be suitable for them. With the Platoon example, seven out of 30 in my class used it as a source, so obviously they didn't feel compelled to watch it.

I think that's a difficult one, given it does link in with their work.

We watched Mississippi Burning (an 18) when doing racism in RE when I was year 10. At one point I turned round and sat on the floor to avoid seeing and the teacher had the sense to just leave me. I still have one or two scenes return to me in nightmares when I'm ill 20 years later.
Some of the others really enjoyed it, and it made a lively discussion afterwards, but others felt like I did. I was shaking when I came out.

However I do acknowledge I'm a complete wimp when it comes to films. I would almost never choose to watch anything above a PG cert, and probably go for a U out of choice.

No-one has said that OP's DD has to watch it. I personally would never suggest an 18 to any of my pupils, but I do give parents the option of allowing the DC to watch films that the exam board suggests are relevant.

A letter home to the parents suggesting an 18 film is perfectly ok. Telling the students in class is different. For me, it has nothing whatsoever to do with the specific film itself. It's just a bit meh to recommend an 18 film in the classroom to under 18s. Like telling them how nice a Bloody Mary can be on a Saturday morning.

There is no way ds will have internet access on his phone EVER until he pays for it himself which he won't as he has far better things he wants to spend his money on, thank God

I was 15 when Trainspotting was released, I remember most of our class had seen it as we had a discussion with a teacher about whether we thought it had glamourised drug use or not. It was only at the end of the discussion that it clicked and he realised that none of us should have been let into the cinema to watch it at all.

Personally I'd let a a 14/15 year old watch it if they wanted to but wouldn't encourage it.

Oh well, I'm obviously a danger to kids, so I'll leave you to it. I've tried to explain my view but I don't think I'm doing it very well. I'm actually very disturbed by a lot of the things that 11 and 12 year olds tell me they watch and I have to report them as CP issues. I just find it difficult to worry about a suggestion that is not being forced on anyone - Mrsjay has made the decision that she feels correct for her daughter, other parents may make a different decision - is that not what parenting is about?

Brd yep exactly!

Oh, I'm certainly not criticising teachers for suggesting films, particularly if they are appropriate to a subject. dd has watched quite a few 18's suggested in school, mostly war or history based.

But I do think trainspotting is a particularly harrowing film.

But the point is why suggest it anyway? So what if thy are reading another one of his books?

whathasthe you posted upthread simpy that you would say, 'they may find some scenes unsettling'.

Now you say, 'we tell the kids exactly what they may see in the film that could be upsetting'.

That's a lot different, to me.

So for Platoon and Trainspotting, for example, how would you list the potentially upsettig scenes, for 14/15 year olds?

Mrsjay I think your attitude is completely appropriate (i.e. I agree!)

Exactly. She doesn't have to watch it.

Sorry, I see you've had enough, whathashthe.

Fair dos.

I would list the themes that they may find upsetting, e.g excessive violence to S.Vietnamese Civilians, attempted rape scenes, fragging etc. All of this is on a list of suggested sources that is given to the kids and sent home.

I would never recommend Trainspotting as it has nothing to do with Vietnam.

No common themes at all?

Exactly. She doesn't have to watch it.

No she doesn't and she isn't going to I just thought it was a bit for her teacher to suggest it or even mention it, I do like the teacher she is a fantastic teacher both DDs have had her,