DM said im selfish. AIBU?

[girlylala0807]

I kive in a council property in a crap area of town. Some of you may remember threads about a small child saying she would kill my son and the fire brigade always being at on of the flats. So I was planning on moving to a private rent next year before ds goes to school so I could get him into a nicer one.

However, I am a single parent and I work part time. The thought of moving into a private rent at the moment scares me. I could use the money I would have to save for a deposit to update my flat. I could apply for an out of catchment school place which wont be to hard here. I would also like to have a full time job so I can pay towards my rent before I take on a huge increase. Lastly, I would like to save and take ds on a small holiday next year if we can afford it after 2 weddings and 2 hen weekends.

My mum went mad. She said im selfish and that I will just have to suck up living in a private rent even if it means I have to keep moving. Im on a list for a swap, Im going to join homeswappers and do anything else I can to move. I just dont want to go into a privare rental. AIBU?

I live in Scotland. DS wont be going to school till he is 5.5. I dont have to apply until next December. I have a seperate savings account for savings earmarked to move so I will look at how much is there next year. I think it may be more sensible to wait until I have a full time job.

Yes, there is an element of being selfish involved here. So in that respect I iabu.

I would still skip the weddings and hen do's in favour of putting that money in my savings to get out of there.

I've lived in a really crap estate, but we saved like mad to get out of there when we had only DD1 and she was still a baby.

I would put everything towards getting out of there.

I wouldn't bother doing up that flat, either. I'd put the money towards moving.

If you're in a large city like Glasgow, it's not hard to get another private rent in the same area a lot of times.

When you say we expat do you mean you and your partner? I would feel alot more comfortable doing it if I was a we again :) (wont be happening anytime soon)

Well, yes, I'm married. But we were in a horrible area.

Save like hell to get out of there! You won't believe what a difference it makes to your life. You don't even realise how much extra worry and stress living in a place like that causes until you leave.

Until then, get some good contents insurance! Most councils have a deal with a provider to provide low-cost contents insurance.

Definitely worth it if someone is setting the close afire or the rubbish chutes.

I'm with expat.

Just do whatever you have to do to escape a horrible area. It will blight your child's life.

hmmm, I think it depends on your current lifestyle to be honest. If you are on the breadline then you have no choice. BUt if as you mention I think, you can save for deposits, holidays, weddings and hen nights, then Im fairly sure there will be other areas in which you can cut back - living a very very simple life in a better area will be better for your children