Aibu to shop friend to RSPCA

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I have a friend, a friend that used to be a very good friend until i started to notice the way she treats her animals.
It started with hitting the dog when he was naughty, something i don't agree with but ignored it at first as was only light tapping.
She then started picking up cat by scruff of the neck to put outside if she didn't want him in.
All that was bad enough, then she bought another kitten & a new puppy.
Since she bought these extra pets i hardly go round there due to her treatment of her pets, can't believe she got two more even though she didn't like the two pets she already had!

Anyway when i do go round there i have seen her hit the dog for not very good reasons.
Throw the puppy across the room and make it stay out in the rain because it chewed a book up :(. She also picked new kitten up by scruff of neck and throw him on the floor because he had dared nick a biscuit of the side.
Since then i can't bare to go round there and was wondering all this time whether to report her?
Since ive stopped going another friend has come to me saying she saw my friend kick both the puppy and the dog repeatedly for peeing on the carpet where she had been out all day :(
I'm now seriously considering reporting her but how do i do it, and how can i do it anonmysily?

It's so hard not knowing what to do
I have tried talking to her, as many others have and she just swears and shouts.
I have even wondered about taking on the older dog myself, but i'm sure she will just brush me off and it doesn't deter from the fact that 3 pets will still remain

I have never shopped anyone before, it will be a 1st and if i name myself i risk her getting pretty mad and upset not to mention the fine or sentence she may recieve- she has 3 dc.

I'm going to try to sway her into rehoming them then phone then Rspca if all else fails.

Yes, report to the RSPCA.

I wouldn't do her the favour of trying to speak to her, delaying any action that the appropriate agencies might take. You see it on mn all the time, horrible stories of animals damaged by a cruel and sadistic owner, and how hard it is for the rescues to find suitable people to take them on.

Well if she swears and shouts at you then she ISN'T a friend, so you could report her..

If she does decide that she cant cope with the pets and hands then over, there will be absolutely nothing to prevent her from buying another dog, puppy, kitten. In a few months she could end up with a free to good home kitten or cheap puppy, because "the kids miss having a pet" or "I can hope better now" or simply because she forgets these incidents have ever happened.

The rspca need to be made aware.

Here's a checklist of what the RSPCA will ask you if you're making a report here

On the subject of confidentiality:

"It is RSPCA policy to treat all complaints in the strictest confidence. Your name will not be disclosed without your permission, but the RSPCA inspector will need to contact you if you want to know about the result of his or her investigation. Please note that this may only be when the investigation has been concluded."

YANBU to report her, the animals can't speak up for themselves. In fact YWBU not to. Do it asap.

Ok, you've tried talking. Now you report. But make sure you check out that checklist and have all the info they need. Be brave.

The RSPCA are unlikely to be able to help really in this instance. Do not alienate her by reporting her for this.

They cannot just take your word for it and rightly so. I have been reported, wrongly, for neglect and they check it out and find evidence, or not.

Little bursts of temper against animals who are generally well treated would be hard to prove. I agree that she is wrong to do it, but I think the best course of action would be to try to educate her.

It is going to be a tough road, but please try at least to travel it.

YANBU, she sounds a right charmer. I don't understand why people are saying the RSPCA can't do anything- what are they there to do then?(Genuine question)?

Godenbear, the RSPCA can visit and investigate but unless the dog/cat owner admits they hit the animals or they witness any sort of physical violence they only have one persons word against another. Unless the owner admits it of course, which is unlikely. In which case they advise and leave. They have no powers to remove the animals or prevent the owner from keeping animals unless they take them to court which obviously involves good evidence of cruelty.

I think Ghost makes good points and if you decide to tackle this yourself OP the Dogs Trust have good downloadable fact sheets on house training etc which you could give to your 'friend'. Maybe guilt trip and educate her into stopping this.

If that is the case, I.e needing evidence, why don't you visit her and film the treatment on your phone if you can do this discreetly, you could say you have to text someone and try and anticipate this awful treatment of these pets.

I would personally be very worried about the unpredictability of someone like this. I mean it is not normal, it I sadistic and brutish and I would worry about the safety of anything around her- animals and people. In no way could I be friends with such an idiot!